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Invest a few hundred dollars with a therapist to see if you could clarify what you feel you're 'missing' and get a handle on how to put a little more fun and joy in your life.
Or alternatively, invest a few hundred dollars in therapy to be told you're fine, if sorta bored.
Or invest a few hundred dollars in a new sport, hobby or activity.
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If you're happy with leading that kind of lifestyle, then so be it. I can relate working odd hours. I used to do that and when I did it was extremely difficult to have a social life. With the job I had, I needed the sleep otherwise I'd be like a walking zombie and also didn't want to risk falling asleep at the wheel while driving. Be honest with yourself. Are you satisfied with the career you have? Change can be nerve-wrecking and at the same time a better opportunity.
Is it OK to not to really want to do anything....except what you want to do?
I'm single no kids. Good job. Well, good paying job, which I really can't complain about. It's secure, union covered, no challenge. Other than having to be there it's really not demanding -- at all. Because I don't have significant other or kids, I don't have anyone making any demands on my time. So my life is my own. Other than work, there's no place I HAVE to be, or anyone I HAVE to commit to.
I'm in a relatively good position financially. I have friends, and family that I love and hang out with very so often. But I don't live near MOST of them. And they have their own lives so although we talk a lot, we don't actually get together that often. Mostly the people I live near are acquaintances more than intimate friends.
My job IS at odd hours so I'm working when they tend to be free. So MOST of my day-to-day is home and work that's it. For example the acquaintances I have -- are all busy today.
Life is actually pretty good I have no reason to complain.
I live alone -- so I don't really have to clean my house (and I don't except for the once a year someone may stop by.) I eat out or order out most of the time.
I don't want to exercise or go to a gym, OR walk by myself. I have an iPod to listen to music while I walk. But I really don't want to get up and do it. Don't really have a need or desire to get out to meet any new people. I've got friends and family. I'm quite content with the people I know. Not really interested in volunteering anywhere.
I AM enjoying my life, I guess I'm just bored most of the time. Other than eating out and buying a few gifts for friends. I don't want to spend any money, really. I do SOME travel.
There's nothing I really much I care about, to me, that's worth doing. Other than work most of what I do is errands you need to do in life...take the care for maintenance, grocery shop, etc.
I read a book once that said most human beings by nature, will do the least they can get away with. I guess since I really don't have any commitments other than work, there's nothing much I HAVE to do.
Is it OK to not to really want to do anything....except what you want to do?
I'm single no kids. Good job. Well, good paying job, which I really can't complain about. It's secure, union covered, no challenge. Other than having to be there it's really not demanding -- at all. Because I don't have significant other or kids, I don't have anyone making any demands on my time. So my life is my own. Other than work, there's no place I HAVE to be, or anyone I HAVE to commit to.
I'm in a relatively good position financially. I have friends, and family that I love and hang out with very so often. But I don't live near MOST of them. And they have their own lives so although we talk a lot, we don't actually get together that often. Mostly the people I live near are acquaintances more than intimate friends.
My job IS at odd hours so I'm working when they tend to be free. So MOST of my day-to-day is home and work that's it. For example the acquaintances I have -- are all busy today.
Life is actually pretty good I have no reason to complain.
I live alone -- so I don't really have to clean my house (and I don't except for the once a year someone may stop by.) I eat out or order out most of the time.
I don't want to exercise or go to a gym, OR walk by myself. I have an iPod to listen to music while I walk. But I really don't want to get up and do it. Don't really have a need or desire to get out to meet any new people. I've got friends and family. I'm quite content with the people I know. Not really interested in volunteering anywhere.
I AM enjoying my life, I guess I'm just bored most of the time. Other than eating out and buying a few gifts for friends. I don't want to spend any money, really. I do SOME travel.
There's nothing I really much I care about, to me, that's worth doing. Other than work most of what I do is errands you need to do in life...take the care for maintenance, grocery shop, etc.
I read a book once that said most human beings by nature, will do the least they can get away with. I guess since I really don't have any commitments other than work, there's nothing much I HAVE to do.
For years, I was in the same exact position as you and it was great, although, somewhat lonely. Three years ago I met the love of my life and things are now even BETTER ... We do exactly what we feel like, when we feel like, and I'm not lonely. I don't want to jinx myself, but life is good!
It's your life, and as long as you're not hurting anybody, do what you want and live how you want.
Is it OK to not to really want to do anything....except what you want to do?
Nothing wrong with livin' slow and easy if yer not hurtin anyone else and that's what suits ya. Getting outta the rat race may be the smartest thing anyone could possibly choose to do.
If I could just kick back and tend to my garden rather than rat race on the Dallas highways - well let's just say I look forward to it. $10K trailer in Brownsville and a good internet connection. Life would be great!
Sounds like the life of a stoner. Which can be pretty alright--for awhile. If it continues, one day the "smoke will clear", and 30 years of your life will have passed you by.
Suitably reminds me of Pink Floyd "Dark Side of the Moon" song lyrics: ". . . and then one day you'll find, 10 years have got behind you, no one told you when to run. . . .you missed the starting gun."
But you forget their counter point after "Empty Spaces" -
It sounds like, someone or somewhere in the back of your mind, has given you the idea that any 'empty' time in your life should be filled with doing something useful/productive.
Unless or until you feel that way and are discontented rather than just a bit bored, ignore it. You'll do more when and if you get the itch.
The only problem is you might not being do your health any good and regret it later. Not fun being a 50 or so in nursing home. I'd at least recommend you think health and do what is needed to avoid such as much as possible.
It seems to me like you're doing fine, even, as above, enviable. You're looking for affirmation for living as you see fit and as makes you happy. You need no such affirmation. The fact that you aren't harming or impeding anyone else is all we, as a society, can ask. If you're also content, able to enjoy your time, and financially secure, you're well beyond a lot of people. I'd say you shouldn't be looking for our affirmation, we should be learning from you.
I like this response.
We live in a world that "people are soooo busy". :roll eyes:
You don't seem to have gotten caught up in the rat race. Good for you. Nothing wrong with a little laziness. Although I really don't see it as laziness. You decompress, you have time to do nothing. That is a good thing.
Your life doesn't sound so bad. My life includes an SO that I take care of plus a cat and two little Chi's plus I have a couple of meetup groups. I don't work so I really have plenty of time to manage our social calendar, take care of our pets, clean our small apartment etc. I frequently get to sleep late and have lunches with friends etc. I have my own income from my dearly departed husband and my SO and I have a great social life, but, during the week we are pretty chill. I love it
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No Way!
, which I really can't complain about. It's secure, union covered, no challenge. Other than having to be there it's really not demanding -- at all. Because I don't have significant other or kids, I don't have anyone making any demands on my time. So my life is my own. Other than work, there's no place I HAVE to be, or anyone I HAVE to commit to.
