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Is it psychologically healthy to have no concern what-so-ever how people view you? Or is there some sort of psychological benefit to caring about what people think about you?
If you care too much about what others think of you, then you will drive yourself crazy trying to please everyone. And there's a good chance you'll please no one, at the end of the day, least of all yourself.
If you don't care AT ALL what other people think, then you can become insensitive, hurtful to others, a violator of the boundaries of others, and a generally disrespectful, empathy-lacking jerk.
Funny thing, there are people here on this forum who would probably advise NOT to care what others think...but if I were to share some stories of my personal life, would tell me they did not want to hear that, and I'm supposed to (for some reason) care what they think. But, in fact, to some extent I do, because I am not here to simply make people uncomfortable. I try to strike a balance between respecting the feelings of others, and being my genuine self. That's life.
If you care too much about what others think of you, then you will drive yourself crazy trying to please everyone. And there's a good chance you'll please no one, at the end of the day, least of all yourself.
If you don't care AT ALL what other people think, then you can become insensitive, hurtful to others, a violator of the boundaries of others, and a generally disrespectful, empathy-lacking jerk.
Agree. Once in a while, someone (who cares what might happen to you) will be honest with you, tell you something negative, something that you don't want to hear. They have the best intentions. If you don't care at all you won't "hear" them.
I tend to listen to what someone else happens to think, chew on it internally for a while, indulge the inner child and let it sulk a bit, and then decide if its worth anything. Most of the flack gets discarded. Some nuggets that might be useful are stored away.
It might be about you but it shouldn't concern you. What is said reflects back to the person(s) talking, not the person talked about...
Rumors and gossip in organizations and the workplace can be quite destructive, though. I see it and experience it all the time. Some people just LOVE to hear themselves talk.
I don't even take this straight to the place of assuming someone is talking trash. I really don't care what anyone says about me. But I do tend to put myself into other people's shoes if I can, and try to be considerate.
I mean, caring what people think...I'm not gonna wear a shirt with a naked person on it, or go around a place where there are families, saying vulgar things. Just a lot of common social courtesies and manners are caring at least a little bit, what other people think. Extending a basic level of respect you might want others to extend to you.
Let's face it, we are social creatures in general, if we want to succeed in business, love, or any other aspect of life that requires interaction with other people, we do have to care at least somewhat, what they think of us.
I take no offense at people talking about me behind my back. Getting upset about such a thing always seemed so very high school. Sometimes I have a little curiosity what people I know REALLY think of me, but I know it's impossible to get an unfiltered picture of that, so I don't bother myself worrying about it. I just try to be nice, it's the best I can do.
IF it is, I must be the most unhealthy person in this forum.
I don't give a care what people think of me. Anyone, husband, stepkids, etc.
Not my problem.
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