Transgender Regrets

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Originally Posted by bolehboleh

I should preface my question by saying that I'm not transgender, but I do have an interest in better understanding the community. Throughout my life I have supported the gay community as a straight ally, but I struggle to group the two communities as one because of some issues I don't fully understand.

Here are a few questions I have. Some may apply to you while others may not.

1. Have you fully or partially transitioned? Do you regret transitioning? Why?
2. Why did you transition? Did you feel any pressure because you may not have fit your biological gender stereotype?
3.What is your opinion on transitioning children, either through chemicals or simply treating them as if they were the opposite sex from the way they were born?

These are questions I'd really like to know the answer to. For all of the more traditional people reading this, please don't turn this thread into another bashing of of transgender people.

1. Almost complete with no regrets as doing so saved my life.

2. I transitioned because I knew from the age of five there was a disparity between mind and body which only grew worse the older I got. I'd be dead now had I not.

3. Children become aware of biological gender and their own identity as early as two. If a young child spends years consistently saying the same thing then support them and get them in to see specialists before puberty. I hate the damage testosterone did to my body and wish I could go back and begin this a long time ago.

Luckily (heh) I'm intersex due to in-utero exposure to a synthetic estrogen called DES so my body never fully developed male but those parts as did were the cause of severe dysphoria. My brain had mapped out that I was on a tropical beach getting a tan whilst drinking cocktails whilst my body told me I was slogging through sewers and drainage pipes. Believe me - the feelings were far, far worse than the description.

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No one MAKES anyone do anything so get that crap idea out of your head and, whilst shoveling that one free, get rid of the one about this being a choice.

Yes I choice to transition because I wanted to be sexually assaulted, I chose to be hated, I chose to have people legislate my medical care. Chose - what a load of utter crap.

Originally Posted by oelyvier

I woke up recently with this in mind. I think it's coz I saw a commercial of a TV show documenting precisely this, the bolded.

It reminded me of my own identity crisis. Yes, when I was a kid, I thought I also was born in the 'wrong body'. Everyone around me knows too for some reason, neighbors, classmates, family. I remember my sister reading my diary about my feelings for my girl friend in school. I was 13. I will never forget what she told me - I will kill you if you are a lesbian. I was like, WTF?!!!

My a-hole bro in law even said in front of my family that if I get raped by a man maybe I will turn into a woman. He is a massive a-hole. And yes that's how my family 'cares' about me which is non existent.

Maybe I got lucky that I don't have supportive family who will pay for my transition as a child. I don't even think there is such a thing in my country in the 80's. It does not help my country and my family obviously has stigma on homosexuals.

I was a virgin and single for the first 4 decades of my life. When I finally decided to date online. I was searching for a man because I want to be married. 2 years of nothing in POF, I actually tried the lesbian dating site. I up to now receive email from them from time to time, LOL. But the pics of the ones who are checking me out are just not my type. They in fact, scare the bejezuz out of me. They are mostly butch. I prefer fems.

I also met a woman back in my country. We even check in a hotel. A 1 night stand kind of thing, well nothing happens, partly and fortunately coz, I had period that night, LOL!!!

So I really dabbled on my lesbian phase. And whenever I hear this film dialogue - I wish I was a lesbian, my life would be so much easier - I was like, WTF, NO! How come I am a virgin all these years then? GTFO. LOL.

My point is.... I think these supportive parents are making a big mistake on this. Making them take hormones on that young age... Because honestly their preference may still change!!!!! It is outright wrong in my opinion to make them do this to themselves. Their brain and emotional intelligence is not yet fully developed!!

And since I can speak for myself, homosexuality/gender identity is ABSOLUTELY a life CHOICE!! No ifs or buts on this one.

I am married to a man whom I love and who loves me back. Yes, my crushes are STILL mostly women but I only sleep with a man, my husband.

By the way, I was gonna make a thread about this - transitioning children. Because honestly in my heart and from my own experience. It is absolutely wrong to make them do this at a very young age. I even am open to be a public speaker against this. I am not kidding. This must be stopped.

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Originally Posted by reneeh63

..whether they should be "granted" to ANYONE? Or "granted" to a particular person? Because reputable facilities require rather long term evaluation at various stages to help ensure the person understands everything and is well-suited.

Sod all was granted to me. I was on hormones and therapy for two years before having my first surgery in Oct 2016. I just had my next two done March 2018. This is not a quick process and I have to see a therapist every step of the way.

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Originally Posted by jonesg

Honestly, I started reading your story thinking who the hell cares.

By the end i was thinking
"God wants spiritual fruits, not religious nuts".
Stay close to God, HE has no stepchildren.

My therapist is an Episcopalian Minister and likes to say, "God don't make no trash." Personally I'm Agnostic but if he does exist than maybe all the pain and agony I've gone through is part of "His Plan."

Personally I think the Plan sucks but that's my take on things.