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A therapist by trade gives you a bill of goods. There are no guarantees. The best things in life are free. Hard work is not required. Effort is overrated. The real purpose of therapy is to make the patient feel like a valued member of society.
I didn't read that post after the first sentence, but after reading your response then reading the post (which I also disagree with pretty much everything they said) I'll also chime in that nobody "gets fixed" - it's a process that goes on until death.
I work hard and long hours and make good money. I live in a great house and have all the toys a guy could ever want. But, I find myself feeling like I am useless. I have always had someone to take care of and after my divorce I just feel like there is no purpose in my life. Kill myself working and have nobody to share the fruits of my labor with. Anyone else feel this way? How do you get past it?
You sound like you're going through a really hard time and you're not alone. People that experience a profound loss of a loved one or even those that experience a significant decline in health can be left feeling lost without focus or sense or purpose. Life can be very challenging and when we lose a major part of our life the grief can hit us hard and make us question who we are or where we are going in life. The most important thing is that you reach out for support or help so you don't continue down the same path. Things can and do get better depending on how you handle it. There are so many resources, such as professional help such as grief counseling, support groups, or perhaps speaking to someone in your church if you belong to one, seek God if you believe, maybe take time off from work to regroup and refocus. If your job has an employee assistance program they can help as well. Just seek help, that is the start.
I'm sure others have suggested this but divorce is akin to a death. Grieving is normal but there are counselors out there who can help you get on the right emotional track for you.
I agree. Grieving is a normal process but not everyone is equipped with the most effective coping mechanisms and at times professional help can be very beneficial. We never need help dealing with our strengths, but oh how we need help at times working through our weaknesses. We are simply human, that's all.
I'm sure others have suggested this but divorce is akin to a death. Grieving is normal but there are counselors out there who can help you get on the right emotional track for you.
It's been 8 years since the OP's divorce. I do think that divorce can leave a painful wound that is life-long. And sometimes one is never lucky enough to meet another person to partner up with after divorce.
I do think that being known deeply and satisfactorily by another person who is emotionally close to you can be something missing in one's life. I think most people often have an emotional need or desire to be known deeply by another person, and when that is missing it can leave a hole in one's heart, soul, and psyche.
Some find a way to work around this desire, and fulfill it in other ways. Others are not so lucky.
It's been 8 years since the OP's divorce. I do think that divorce can leave a painful wound that is life-long. And sometimes one is never lucky enough to meet another person to partner up with after divorce.
I do think that being known deeply and satisfactorily by another person who is emotionally close to you can be something missing in one's life. I think most people often have an emotional need or desire to be known deeply by another person, and when that is missing it can leave a hole in one's heart, soul, and psyche.
Some find a way to work around this desire, and fulfill it in other ways. Others are not so lucky.
Well said, and so true. Its been 10 years since my own divorce, and I never found another woman I wanted to marry. Came close, but red flags prevented me from pulling the trigger. There is a big hole where a partner should be, at least for me.
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