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Good goddess you people are harsh "put her back on the shelf" "move on", she is still a human being, and perhaps that is what EVERYONE always does to her and thus she never gets better. Be her friend....and try to get her to open up to you but don't try to sleep with her in this state....there is something in her past i feel.
Brief background: I'm 24, she's 23. We have been casually dating (not exclusively) for a month, and recently she told me (drunk and crying) that she has feelings for me.
Meanwhile, she won't sleep with me or do anything sexual (always some lame excuse), but yet she sleeps with guys she doesn't care about. We have made out numerous times, but nothing more. She also has daddy issues (daddy never gave her approval, etc). She is very pretty, and is the type of girl that gets hit on all the time by guys.
What's my next move? I don't want to just sleep with her and then leave her, I actually like this girl. But it's not fair to me that she's intimate with other guys and not me. I feel that she is playing games, and I have been advised (by guys AND girls) next time to act like a complete ***hole to her. Basically show her little to no affection, and she will sleep with me to validate herself. Last time we were out, I ignored her for a while and she was all over me. I don't like playing games, but girls like this are why "nice guys" turn into ***holes.
You need to ask yourself something...why would you find someone such an emotional mess even remotely attractive?
Good goddess you people are harsh "put her back on the shelf" "move on", she is still a human being, and perhaps that is what EVERYONE always does to her and thus she never gets better. Be her friend....and try to get her to open up to you but don't try to sleep with her in this state....there is something in her past i feel.
As good intentioned as your advice is, the problem here is that the guy (on some level) is already attached to her romantically/emotionally.
While it's nice to think that you can wait it out and be there for her and someday she'll reciprocate the feelings, there's a good chance the guy will put himself through hell and then some only to have her keep doing what she's doing (jumping into bed with random guys while having him there as the backup plan) and things go nowhere.
Of course, every situation is different. If he thinks she's worth waiting and trying for, then he should do so. Everyone who's saying to split has a very valid reason for saying so.
@OP: Best bet, just keep doing what you're doing while look for other girls to talk to and date. Chances are, you'll find someone else and won't see current girl in the same light as you do now.
There's also the possibility that she'll come at you more aggressively when she sees you pulling other girls similar to how she does when you don't pay her any attention. Problem with this is that once you give her attention she'll revert back to her previous behavior and the cycle continues.
She sounds like she has some issues.... I'd proceed with caution......
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