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A so called "nice guy" can modify his behavior either directly or through a proxy of accomplishment. There is a feedback loop. When men display a lack of confidence, they are more or less revealing that they would make a poor mate. Suppose a man was filled with anxiety due to losing it all, or perhaps the police are closing in on a crime he committed. Women will pick up on this display as a warning to them. Suppose a man has been wildly successful. Women will pick this up in body language which is not the display of a nice guy but typically a one who is a little cocky.
Since this has been explained, and women actually report their lack of desire for men who only have nice to offer, what kind of woman wants a man who cannot adapt himself?
In comparison, what would you like? An uptight librarian who will do it once a month in the dark or a prostitute? That is the equivalent choice you are presenting women. I could see some men who just might say the hell with it. At least he may have one happy moment before he dies.
you're right, but we are talking mostly younger men who by default have accomplished less in life. poindexter will be much more confident later when he has a car worth about as much as bad boy's house.
how come a bad boy's criminal record doesn't repel women just like for nice guy?
yes this thread is still going on because I like reading what everyone has to say. Don't like it? then don't post here and don't act like you know me or who I am. You obviously don't.
I'm really doing you a tremendous favor by giving you a little tough love. Blaming others for your inability to find love means that you are not seriously looking at yourself and your own dysfunction. Sorry.
And yet instead of really helping the guy you just tell him he has a 'dysfunction.' Christ what's next, I go to the doctor and he diagnoses me with ebola and then tells me to hit the road?
And yet instead of really helping the guy you just tell him he has a 'dysfunction.' Christ what's next, I go to the doctor and he diagnoses me with ebola and then tells me to hit the road?
And yet instead of really helping the guy you just tell him he has a 'dysfunction.' Christ what's next, I go to the doctor and he diagnoses me with ebola and then tells me to hit the road?
Hi HurricaneDC,
The proper metaphor for making this request on an internet forum is "What's next, I go to the slaughter house and they turn me into meat parts under bubble wrap?"
It's a simple equation, be yourself but don't be a doormat. I learned that there are "nice girls" out there who fit our persnality and who will accept us for who we are, and let us leave those ones that go after douchebags to get dumped and get sh****d on their whole life.
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Perhaps this advice is not contemporary; but in the past, "nice guys" could buy back their women in Barbary.Perhaps someone will help me out and find something more up-to-date.
The pasha also bought most female captives, some of whom were taken into his harem, where they lived out their days in captivity. The majority, however, were purchased for their ransom value; while awaiting their release, they worked in the palace as harem attendants.
I'm really doing you a tremendous favor by giving you a little tough love. Blaming others for your inability to find love means that you are not seriously looking at yourself and your own dysfunction. Sorry.
I'd bet you any selfproclaimed niceguy knows he is the only common denominator in the failed attemps to get a woman. You are not helping the guy, you're just shoving the **** he already knows in his face. The problem isn't that he is unnaware of his inadequacies, if he was he wouldn't be posting here, would he? the wants help solving the problem, not realising it.
Well I used to be this..."niceguy", but now I just don't give a crap, and it kinda helps, not to get women, but to keep some freaken sanity.
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