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I am 24 and I have a girlfriend (23). I've only been in one previous relationship about a year ago.
I find it very hard to maintain happiness sometimes, and that includes in the relationship. The girl is absolutely great, but somehow I seem to find things to bring myself down all the time. It's ridiculous sometimes. She'll tell me about going out with her friends, and I'll get down on myself because I have no friends, and she "must" think I'm a loser because of it.
I have the constant impression that I am very boring to her (and boring in general) and that she's only sticking around with me because she feels like she should (my sister set us up, so she wouldn't want to make my sister unhappy?).
I'm pretty sure that most of this is all self-delusion, but I just can't help it. This extends to every part of my life. Work, sports, etc.
I really hate it because I think it's held me back in life. I've missed out on so many things I wanted to do because of how negatively my mind works sometimes.
IMO, those with negative minds should seek out others who are negative, as two negatives make for a postive. I have a negative mind, I thrive with another negative mind around, we both do!
Being with a positive-minded individual, it doesn't take long, and I can feel the mud rising to my waist. You would think that being around a positive-minded person would help the situation, but in my case, it does the opposite.
I am 24 and I have a girlfriend (23). I've only been in one previous relationship about a year ago.
I find it very hard to maintain happiness sometimes, and that includes in the relationship. The girl is absolutely great, but somehow I seem to find things to bring myself down all the time. It's ridiculous sometimes. She'll tell me about going out with her friends, and I'll get down on myself because I have no friends, and she "must" think I'm a loser because of it.
I have the constant impression that I am very boring to her (and boring in general) and that she's only sticking around with me because she feels like she should (my sister set us up, so she wouldn't want to make my sister unhappy?).
I'm pretty sure that most of this is all self-delusion, but I just can't help it. This extends to every part of my life. Work, sports, etc.
I really hate it because I think it's held me back in life. I've missed out on so many things I wanted to do because of how negatively my mind works sometimes.
IMO, those with negative minds should seek out others who are negative, as two negatives make for a postive. I have a negative mind, I thrive with another negative mind around, we both do!
Being with a positive-minded individual, it doesn't take long, and I can feel the mud rising to my waist. You would think that being around a positive-minded person would help the situation, but in my case, it does the opposite.
Hey you know what.. I believe I suffer from this too. I think myself if I am around someone too positive, I cringe and just feel like a fool. I prefer cynicism in a person I choose to go out with personally since I am a bit that way.
I am 24 and I have a girlfriend (23). I've only been in one previous relationship about a year ago.
I find it very hard to maintain happiness sometimes, and that includes in the relationship. The girl is absolutely great, but somehow I seem to find things to bring myself down all the time. It's ridiculous sometimes. She'll tell me about going out with her friends, and I'll get down on myself because I have no friends, and she "must" think I'm a loser because of it.
I have the constant impression that I am very boring to her (and boring in general) and that she's only sticking around with me because she feels like she should (my sister set us up, so she wouldn't want to make my sister unhappy?).
I'm pretty sure that most of this is all self-delusion, but I just can't help it. This extends to every part of my life. Work, sports, etc.
I really hate it because I think it's held me back in life. I've missed out on so many things I wanted to do because of how negatively my mind works sometimes.
People can rise above all of the negativity! Fake it.
Have you spoken to your Dr about your feelings because you sound depressed.
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