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Very few men are "threatened" by a sexually confident woman. Maybe some men just don't like women who wear sex on their sleeves. Sex is a part of our lives. But it is not the only part. The reality is we all love sex. It is wired into our DNA. Saying you enjoy sex is like saying you enjoy eating a meal three to four times a day. It's really not a revelation. Being comfortable in that enjoyment is not exactly ground breaking. Being comfortable in that enjoyment should be normal. Believe it or not, a lot of men simply want more from a woman than her body. Yes, I know we have stereotypes that say otherwise. However, I am not talking about teenagers and frat boys. I am talking about grown men looking to build a relationship with a woman. Men like that want a complete, three dimensional woman not a one dimensional Kim Kardashian knock off. What some women see as intimidation could simply be disinterest on the man's part.
Many people look at the way one treats sex as a function of their maturity. It's the same with money. Most see people who are frivolous with their money as being immature. So what does that say about someone who is frivolous with their body? It may not seem right to judge. However, people are making those judgement calls even if they don't say it out loud. That is what some women and men are running into. What one calls sexually confident another may call sexually frivolous.
I wouldn't feel threatened by one. But heres the thing... I want a sweet and kind type of woman and not one that trys to act like a man. Thats pretty much the thing.
What one calls sexually confident another may call sexually frivolous.
That’s true. I don’t know how many people watch it, but a perfect example is the Samantha character on Sex and the City. I love her character. She sees what she wants and she goes after it, not giving a crap what anyone thinks about her. She has a potty mouth but she is always herself.
However, I have had people argue with me and tell me that she is just a dirty **** who fks anything that moves.
That’s true. I don’t know how many people watch it, but a perfect example is the Samantha character on Sex and the City. I love her character. She sees what she wants and she goes after it, not giving a crap what anyone thinks about her. She has a potty mouth but she is always herself.
However, I have had people argue with me and tell me that she is just a dirty **** who fks anything that moves.
I have never watched Sex and the City so I don't know what that character is like but from your description it sounds like she's trying to act like a man... not cool. I want a girl. each to their own though I guess.
The fact that women are more conservative about sex and more sweet and kind instead of aggresive and foul languaged is what makes them attractive.(note I don't use foul language either, infact never... unless I lose at poker)
The fact that women are more conservative about sex and more sweet and kind instead of aggresive and foul languaged is what makes them attractive.(note I don't use foul language either, infact never... unless I lose at poker)
I'm not even sure if I would equate sexual confidence with a lot of partners or experience.
There is a difference between being confident in your sexuality and being with a lot of partners.
It's more of an attitude and openess.
You are exactly right! After a very repressed and sexually vacant marriage of long-standing, I have just recently (since filing for divorce) come to realize that I love sex and never again want to be without it (a lot of it). I have not had a lot of partners or experience but I have stopped pretending I am not a very sexual being and embraced my desires. I am very open and seldom hold anything back when I talk with my partners and it has been extremely liberating and much appreciated by those I am talking to. Only by discussing the things I want or even am curious about can I know that I am having as satisfying a relationship as I can possibly have. Talking is never a bad thing.
I am sure this has been done a million times but I’m going to make it a million and 1.
Guys, do you ever feel threatened by women who enjoy sex and aren’t afraid to say so?
Women who enjoy things such as pornography and/or erotica and aren’t afraid to talk about it?
I suppose “threatened” isn’t the word… maybe judgmental is more the word I am looking for.
Let me explain.
The other day I was telling someone (a guy) about a girlfriend of mine who never holds back. I love this about her, she isn’t afraid to say exactly what she wants and what’s on her mind. Somehow though, it never comes across in a trashy way. Explicit, but not trashy. I can also talk openly with her about what I like and want and she shows no judgment towards me. Very SATC I suppose – just 2 mature women discussing sex.
My friend told me he thinks she sounds like “a bit of a slut”. I was so angry and insulted by his judgment of her. How dare he call her such an ugly name when he likes exactly the same things she does?
I use to have a married female friend and she said her husband wouldn't 'let' her own a vibrator or other sex toys. That's how jealous he was, of a plastic penis toy.
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How dare he call her such an ugly name when he likes exactly the same things she does?
