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She has been kind of hinting at that night and I think she wants me to say it again but I haven't yet. I think she wants to know that I really meant it. I did mean it, but again its still a little awkward to me to tell her again knowing she won't say it back. Maybe I'll do like a poster has previously stated and just wait for a special moment to tell her again. She may have the thought that I regret saying it or said it "in the moment" but I did really mean it, I'll just have to wait for the right time to tell her again.
I think that's a good strategy! Quit worrying so much . Your relationship sounds like its unfolding the way it should!
My soon to be wife is Chinese and she is always telling me " don't tell me you love me with out showing me you love me ", now your lady may not be saying she loves you but, it sure sounds like she's showing you she does even if she doesn't realize it yet, give her some time and continue to tell and show her you love her.
Good luck.
I think that's a good strategy! Quit worrying so much . Your relationship sounds like its unfolding the way it should!
^this
Many years ago, well 1999, I told my then-boyfriend that I loved him. It just sort of slipped out when we were having a romantic moment (no, not in bed) but he didn't say it back. I kept my mouth shut after that, and about a month or so later he said it to me He said it several times a day after that, it was a pretty good relationship, at the time. Things didn't work out, but I'm reasonably certain it had nothing to do with me (a girl) saying "I love you" first.
It's nice that cdubs is in a good relationship, after all the whining about not being able to find anyone with online dating
I completely disagree...in fact, I think that just really sounds absurd given everything he has posted about her.
Maybe emotional user was too harsh a label.
But I'm fairly certain she kneaded the 'I love you' out of him... because she wanted to hear it... even though she is not ready to say it herself.
Not necessarily a bad thing but... Anyone half-way observant can sense when that first 'I love you' is near, you can avoid it (not ready) or let it happen (ready or just needing some sweet words to make your day), this is especially true for women.
It's not something I worried about, but we did talk about it a little last night after we had dinner at my aunt/uncle's house.
She had asked me again if I meant what I said the other night (referring to me saying "ILY"). I told her again that I did mean it, and she said she was just curious because it was toward the end of our little vacation while laying in bed and I hadn't said it to her again since.
I basically explained to her that I haven't usually had very good responses from women whom I've said it to in the past, and I told her that it didn't bother me that she didn't say it back, I'm just a little thrown off that you seem like you still want me to say it. I said that usually women who don't return the ILY usually don't want to hear it again as it makes them uncomfortable so I'm confused as to why you seem like you want to keep hearing it from me.
She said that she just wanted to make sure that I meant it, and she felt that maybe if she heard it a few more times out of me she might feel more comfortable saying it back, but she doesn't expect me to bombard her with it. She ended her reasoning saying that she just wants me to be honest and say it if I feel it, and that she's probably not far off from saying it, she just need more time to be comfortable with how fast our relationship has moved. It's only been a little over 3 months but feels much much longer.
As an update, I said it a third time over the span of a couple weeks and she ended up saying it back. I knew she did, she just wasn't ready to say it yet.
As an update, I said it a third time over the span of a couple weeks and she ended up saying it back. I knew she did, she just wasn't ready to say it yet.
As an update, I said it a third time over the span of a couple weeks and she ended up saying it back. I knew she did, she just wasn't ready to say it yet.
Well, good for ya!
It'd never occur to me to count ILY's, but that's what "healthy" people do, I suppose...
It'd never occur to me to count ILY's, but that's what "healthy" people do, I suppose...
Well, knowing I only said it 3 times considering it's not something I've told anyone in a very long time....it's not really much effort to "count". I would think any reasonably intelligent person would be aware of this.
Now if I were to say it's only the 17th time I've told her, then yes, you could reasonably question my "health" but until then you may want to have someone evaluate your own.
Well, knowing I only said it 3 times considering it's not something I've told anyone in a very long time....it's not really much effort to "count". I would think any reasonably intelligent person would be aware of this.
Obviously, it's not about the counting itself. It's about this whole game of counting who says it first and whether and/or when the other one will say it at all.
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Now if I were to say it's only the 17th time I've told her, then yes, you could reasonably question my "health" but until then you may want to have someone evaluate your own.
No need - I HAVE evaluated my own! Have you heard me talking about being in relationships...?
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. Your relationship sounds like its unfolding the way it should!
He said it several times a day after that, it was a pretty good relationship, at the time. Things didn't work out, but I'm reasonably certain it had nothing to do with me (a girl) saying "I love you" first.
