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I think it's in poor taste for him to ask you to pay. While I can understand that you two have been dating for a while and he might be checking to see if you are into him and are capable of giving back then I understand.
If on the next date he does the same thing, you can politely decline his invitation to pay and inform him nicely that you will suggest something another time. Start following the rule of: if he asks you out then he should pay. Now depending on how often he takes you out then every now and then you can call him (initiate) and say, how about we have dinner Friday night; my treat?
Negative on paying for your half in the future, unless you want him to be your platonic buddy.
Damn, someone needs to give me a list, I only have been taught proper etiquette and the common laws.
I also have common sense, but I'm not familiar at all with the three date rules and what ever that is, is there a paper with these things written down that I can read?
Damn, someone needs to give me a list, I only have been taught proper etiquette and the common laws.
I also have common sense, but I'm not familiar at all with the three date rules and what ever that is, is there a paper with these things written down that I can read?
I'm not very good at these unwritten rules.
Imagine if there were rules too about how women should be the ones who take care of cooking and cleaning without complaining the same way all these women enforce these rules about how men should ask, pay, initiate, and so on.
I am lucky to be in a relationship where gender entitlements and rules are thrown out the window. We are just nice to each other regardless of gender and being nice to each other means BOTH taking care of expenses, BOTH romancing each other, BOTH taking initiative, BOTH doing chores, etc. No record keeping, nothing. It just comes out naturally. Different culture or whatever it is, it works fine so far.
I think you are all pretty mean to the posters guy.
SHE missed to offer paying at least part of the previous tabs and now HE is a jerk because HE finally asks her to pay some??? REALLY?
I think he asked in a nice way and I think any woman who goes out with a guy should start paying her share after a few dates. Everything else is just selfish and unfair.
If she is really THAT poor, she can offer to cook for him or take him on a picnic. But girls: don't let him take you to nice restaurants and have him spend all your money on you. If I like a guy, I don't want him broke.
BOTH romancing each other, BOTH taking initiative, BOTH doing chores, etc. No record keeping, nothing. It just comes out naturally. Different culture or whatever it is, it works fine so far.
Ha, nice to think about, but extremely rare I bet.
Women need to stop being so passive and initiate more. That would eliminate half the problems you see on this forum.
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