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Old 06-21-2011, 10:52 AM
 
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Default Out on a double date and out fo the blue her friend's boyfriend tells a race joke

So, I was out with someone and she saw a couple she knew so we stuck together for a lot of the night. As things wound down we found ourselves in a hippie kind of bar. The tables were bolted down, so when her friend's boyfriend tried to move one I said, "Don't steal it".

Then he went into a one sided conversation that started with, "Yeah, you know how us white people do/ok since you said that, then I can tell you this. Then he told a really bad n-word joke. And he actually said the n-word.


Why do people do this?
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Old 06-21-2011, 10:59 AM
 
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It is never acceptable under any circumstances to me. I really hate that kind of humor, if that's what you can call it.

However, it does no good to berate the person. The better course of action is simply say, "I didn't find that very funny," and then change the subject. The message will be very clear without destroying the evening.
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Old 06-21-2011, 11:00 AM
 
Location: Whiteville Tennessee
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The bigger question I think is why are people so damn sensitive? It's just a joke! I swear people are such pu**ies these days! Black people AND white people!
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Old 06-21-2011, 11:02 AM
 
Location: Wherever women are
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So, I was out with someone and she saw a couple she knew so we stuck together for a lot of the night. As things wound down we found ourselves in a hippie kind of bar. The tables were bolted down, so when her friend's boyfriend tried to move one I said, "Don't steal it".

Then he went into a one sided conversation that started with, "Yeah, you know how us white people do/ok since you said that, then I can tell you this. Then he told a really bad n-word joke. And he actually said the n-word.


Why do people do this?
What is the big deal about the n-word
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Old 06-21-2011, 11:04 AM
 
Location: colorado
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So, I was out with someone and she saw a couple she knew so we stuck together for a lot of the night. As things wound down we found ourselves in a hippie kind of bar. The tables were bolted down, so when her friend's boyfriend tried to move one I said, "Don't steal it".

Then he went into a one sided conversation that started with, "Yeah, you know how us white people do/ok since you said that, then I can tell you this. Then he told a really bad n-word joke. And he actually said the n-word.


Why do people do this?

I think a joke is a joke...my friend is white..his bestfriend is black...and they tell each other racist jokes all the time..they don't get offended..they know its only a joke and they can take it...my friend would tell me the immigration was going to take me away...it was funny because he was the one with the accent..
But when you degrade someone thats a different story..
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Old 06-21-2011, 11:10 AM
 
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It is most likely that he is racist and most people mistake silence for agreement so he thought you similarly felt superior to black people.
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Old 06-21-2011, 11:16 AM
 
Location: Whiteville Tennessee
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If I got angry every time someone called me a Mick because I'm Irish or called me a f*g because I was a nurse, I'd be in prison. I fear we are going to raise a generation of very thin skinned children.
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Old 06-21-2011, 11:17 AM
 
Location: Tallahassee, Florida
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The bigger question I think is why are people so damn sensitive? It's just a joke! I swear people are such pu**ies these days! Black people AND white people!
I guess it is ok to generalize people on your terms huh... just not when you disagree....
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Old 06-21-2011, 11:27 AM
 
Location: Whiteville Tennessee
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I guess it is ok to generalize people on your terms huh... just not when you disagree....
If I know its just a joke why should I let it bother me? If you add not being able to tell a joke with not being able to cut a kid from a sports team or not being able to give a kid an F on a report card, kids are going to be SISSIES if we arent careful.
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Old 06-21-2011, 11:46 AM
 
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The strange part is, before that I was the "inappropriate one" because I rubbed the back of her friend's father earlier that night.
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