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I don't like just to be nice compliments, if its idle chit chat it has no meaning and is no compliment. A deserved compliment on the other hand is a nice thing both given and received.
So why are some people so reluctant to give compliments?
I was out on a date and the guy just kept looking at me like he had something to say. I was like "what's on your mind?" he would say "nothing" and then look away. But minutes later he would look again. I started to get a little exasperated... he finally said "you're so hot I really like your smile and eyes and... etc" I told him thanks but really why do people hold back? If you want to compliment someone and express that you are 'into' someone else then you should do it... don't be bashful because the moment may pass you by
"Pardon me, miss, I was going to compliment you on ________ but you just leave me speechless. "
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I don't like just to be nice compliments, if its idle chit chat it has no meaning and is no compliment. A deserved compliment on the other hand is a nice thing both given and received.
Exactly. I think a lady would like that very much.
Oh, really??...some women complain that that is what men keep looking at when they talk to them...and they consider it insulting..what to do....what to do....
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I'm reluctant sometimes, mainly because I often get a 'riiiiight'. Makes me feel like they think I'm lying or I sound awkward so they don't believe I'm sincere. It's hard for me to give compliments so when I do, I really mean it.
Has anyone noticed that the thread title "Scared To Give A Compliment Much?" is gender neutral, yet just about every single response over 5 pages has been geared towards women accepting/rejecting/disliking compliments from men?
Do women ever compliment men? Is that out of the realm of possibilty? Do men ever receive compliments? Should men receiving compliments also be a part of this thread?
I'm reluctant sometimes, mainly because I often get a 'riiiiight'. Makes me feel like they think I'm lying or I sound awkward so they don't believe I'm sincere. It's hard for me to give compliments so when I do, I really mean it.
I don't think it's that they think you're lying, but to me a random compliment in the middle of a date is a sign that they have nothing better to say or no interests beyond my appearance. Saying a girl looks nice when you pick her up is expected, but randomly blurting out that she's hot halfway through the night implies you haven't been paying attention to anything but her boobs.
I don't compliment much unless someone especially earned it. If you hand out compliments like candy they just lose their meaning.
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I don't think it's that they think you're lying, but to me a random compliment in the middle of a date is a sign that they have nothing better to say or no interests beyond my appearance. Saying a girl looks nice when you pick her up is expected, but randomly blurting out that she's hot halfway through the night implies you haven't been paying attention to anything but her boobs.
I don't compliment much unless someone especially earned it. If you hand out compliments like candy they just lose their meaning.
Who says it's all about looks? My compliments aren't usually about looks. I'm far more impressed with other aspects of a man than his looks. No one's looks will last, I don't care how good you look. But character and talent can be boundless. I like to recognize that in people.
Who says it's all about looks? My compliments aren't usually about looks. I'm far more impressed with other aspects of a man than his looks. No one's looks will last, I don't care how good you look. But character and talent can be boundless. I like to recognize that in people.
Okay. The OP was talking about looks. But I think the same goes for any out of the blue compliment. It has to be related to what's happening right then or it just sounds insincere.
Has anyone noticed that the thread title "Scared To Give A Compliment Much?" is gender neutral, yet just about every single response over 5 pages has been geared towards women accepting/rejecting/disliking compliments from men?
Do women ever compliment men? Is that out of the realm of possibilty? Do men ever receive compliments? Should men receiving compliments also be a part of this thread?
I'm pretty sure that's because most of the people commenting on this thread are men. I'm a woman - my post was about complimenting anyone.
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Okay. The OP was talking about looks. But I think the same goes for any out of the blue compliment. It has to be related to what's happening right then or it just sounds insincere.
Just answering the topic title which said nothing about looks. Their case was about looks, but compliments are compliments, regardless of what they're about, right?
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because the moment may pass you by
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.what to do....what to do....
