Is is possible to be in love fully and not want sex?

[Yzette]

You might get some more insight here, including how NOT to handle it:

[URL]http://www.city-data.com/forum/relationships/1100106-bored-frustrated-sex-life.html[/URL]

[Desertman_AZ]

Originally Posted by wawaweewa

There can only be one of a few reasons, right?

a) She's getting it somewhere else. She needs you for the family side but not for sex.

b) There's a chemical or psychological imbalance which severely limits her libido

c) she's not as happy with you or the marriage as you think .

OP, take this very good advice above. Men who think that sex is everything in a relationship are often clueless to other problems and issues that have been brewing over the years.

It is likely that she is no longer in love with you and has moved on but she is not ready to tell you yet until she feels more comfortable and secure in ending the marriage. You may have an opening here to repair your relationship before it is broken.

[LS Jaun]

Originally Posted by 20yrsinBranson

Women, typically lose their fertility in their late 40s and early 50s. In nature it would not make sense to continue having a sex drive beyond that point. Being in my mid-50s I have no interest in sex, and if anything I find the preoccupation that the rest of the world seems to have with it rather off-putting. I mean COME ON, in the grand scheme of things there are a great many more important things to think about.

Your implication that not having an interest in sex is abnormal or indicates some kind of illness (physically or mental), is insulting and incorrect.

20yrsinBranson

Absolutely! People and especially people on public forums like to group people in set little groups.

All people run the full gammit from: "Asexual" to others that want sex 10 hours a day. There is no real normal!

It really is not abnormal for people to have different wants and needs especially after 10 years of marriage. The idea that we all have to have sex 2.5 days a week in the missionary position and switch to one other style every other week is the incorrect model. Some people after 10 years have no sex and others are having threesomes. Not saying you can't improve it but it's not really that far out there!

[wawaweewa]

Originally Posted by 20yrsinBranson

Women, typically lose their fertility in their late 40s and early 50s. In nature it would not make sense to continue having a sex drive beyond that point. Being in my mid-50s I have no interest in sex, and if anything I find the preoccupation that the rest of the world seems to have with it rather off-putting. I mean COME ON, in the grand scheme of things there are a great many more important things to think about.

Your implication that not having an interest in sex is abnormal or indicates some kind of illness (physically or mental), is insulting and incorrect.

20yrsinBranson

I was assuming the OP's wife is nowhere near 50.
If she was, I'd also assume that he wouldn't be asking this question because the most likely answer would be obvious.