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I'm 21 very soon and to be honest.. I'm still getting a lot of nowhere with my social life in general. Dating might as well be something people do on a whole other planet (one which I do not inhabit.)
Yeah I'm not having much dating luck either. The problem is my mom got married @ my age and I may feel pressured to do the same. But there's no way I'd resort to desperate measures.
I didn't formally date when I was 20. I traveled and partied. I met different guys along the way and when something clicked, we'd hang out heavily and it would turn into a relationship. So, no dinner and movies, but pancakes in the RV in the morning on memorial beach, seeing the local bands at night, or driving up the keys and camping. Most of my relationships took place on the road until I settled down in the Northeast in my late 20s. I'm married now.
Yeah I'm not having much dating luck either. The problem is my mom got married @ my age and I may feel pressured to do the same. But there's no way I'd resort to desperate measures.
I have found with my friends that's a big issue.
Now at 25 marriage is the farthest thing from my mom (My mom was married at 29 to a 38 year old) so I figure I got a lot of good years left. I have a friend who's parents married at 19 and she feels like shes a world behind at 27
Some posters said my bad dating life will change when I get older. But that brings me to the question "What was your dating life like at my age (20)? And what's it like now?"
When you say my dating life will change, are you speaking from your own personal experience? Or are you just making a wild guess?
At 20, I was in a serious relationship and head over heels in love.
Today, I am in a serious relationship and head over heels in love.
Some posters said my bad dating life will change when I get older. But that brings me to the question "What was your dating life like at my age (20)? And what's it like now?"
When you say my dating life will change, are you speaking from your own personal experience? Or are you just making a wild guess?
It was insanely easy in my 20s. Heck, all I needed to know was whether or not I found you attractive, nice, and we had some things in common. That was it!
In my 40s there are all kinds of considerations... are we compatible from the standpoint of finances, religion, education, employment, politics, etc. plus the stuff from above.
In addition to all that fun stuff, at 40 everyone is "set" in their ways, and if not "set" has a definite preference in how everything is done. You have to ask yourself, "will we kill each other over housekeeping?" Plus, usually there are kids involved - a whole additional list of things.....
At your age, my dating life was very mediocre, but I did date. Too soon after, though, I made the grievous error of getting married (to someone who turned out to be incompatible), which of course demolished my dating. However, about 25 years later when I freed myself again, my dating life was amazing, fulfilling, satisfying, and varied. Maturity and self-confidence opened a marvelous vista of opportunity and enjoyment!
Well that was last year but my dating life hasn't changed. Focus a lot on building friendships and networks. Still do to this day. I'll come back once I hit 30 and let you know if anything changes.
Another time... another place... not of any help to you...
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