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Well, I can see where this thread will go. It will divide between the embittered, cynical souls who couldn't have a relationship if they tried and those who have actually -- gasp -- made wise decisions when choosing a life partner and keeping that relationship healthy.
The first group will never blame themselves for their incompetence, but will instead lay their relationship failures at the feet of everything else. For that would mean admitting to being wrong.
OMG what a holier-than-thou post. LOL All I have to say is that I never got a call to be surveyed by these people...But I did meet a couple last night that appeared to be happily married for 50 years!
This is so stupid, of course married people should like each other! If not WTF are they married for? It's like saying "Studies show that friends actually like each other!" WOW!!!
I guess in a new world where divorce is the rule and not the exception, this would be news.... lol
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When I was in college studying statistical analysis I remember well a book that I read in which it was demonstrated that a survey can be done in a manner that will produce the results you want, and that happens every day when commercial interests are involved. In this case, answering that one does not like their spouse is very unlikely. The person asked may be suspicious that the interviewer is really a private detective hired by their spouse, or worry that it somehow could get back to the spouse. If you see a married couple still together after their children are grown and moved out, then they are most likely happy with their spouse. Often those living together but unhappy stay for the benefit of the kids.
The book I mentioned was written in the 1950s. I met my wife in college, in a psychology class and we are still together after 37 years.
If you see a married couple still together after their children are grown and moved out, then they are most likely happy with their spouse.
That's true to some extent, but by that time finances are so complicated and commingled and starting your life from scratch again so frightening and difficult that many just decide to carry on with the known devil... You know how you boil a frog, right? Slooooowly...
That's true to some extent, but by that time finances are so complicated and commingled and starting your life from scratch again so frightening and difficult that many just decide to carry on with the known devil... You know how you boil a frog, right? Slooooowly...
That's the case with my aunt and her husband. He's just the nicest guy and my aunt is crazy. I mean really crazy. But, he figures too many people would be hurt if they split and the two of them have a lot of money. They're bother @ 70 or almost there. Every time I see him he says "you don't know what I go through". It's really sad. She is really sick, tho. From cancers to lupus to an awful upbringing (her dad, my grandfather, was a violent shyte).
well, i can see where this thread will go. It will divide between the embittered, cynical souls who couldn't have a relationship if they tried and those who have actually -- gasp -- made wise decisions when choosing a life partner and keeping that relationship healthy.
The first group will never blame themselves for their incompetence, but will instead lay their relationship failures at the feet of everything else. For that would mean admitting to being wrong.
Marriage is obsolete, so this study is irrelevant.
That didn't take long.
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Slooooowly...
