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I have done online dating, but I hope that my daughter just meets someone nice at school. My sons won't do online dating, they think it is nothing but "fat chicks and psychos." My son has done it, and said that all the women he met were weird. He prefers to just meet women thru friends, or at this neighborhood bar he goes to..where lots of people hang out.
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Owe. I gave you props for doing online dating. I'm too scared to take the step.
Well ... I have to tell you that it has been a frustrating encounter and I don't think you are missing out on much, except superficial online guys who expect you to be a model but aren't so hot looking themselves.
Well ... When you are searching for a match online, you tend to quickly screen out more folks without giving them a chance versus real life dating where you are more likely to give someone a chance despite the fact that they do not fit your "ideal".
I will just look into volunteering as I have some additional free time that I did not have before and through shared interests, I may meet someone that way. Just need to find new ways of getting out there. I guess with my unusual facial features, I may have to develop a friendship then allow it to progress into something more. I dunno if a guy will be attracted off the bat ...
I get that online dating isn't for everyone and never will be but I just think it is odd to think that people would not make attractive/unattractive judgments in person. Someone who is not superficial would not become so once she/he joins a website.
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I get that online dating isn't for everyone and never will be but I just think it is odd to think that people would not make attractive/unattractive judgments in person. Someone who is not superficial would not become so once she/he joins a website.
Oh ... Don't get me wrong ... There are superficial people in real life as well BUT here's the difference...
When you are online, you are screening folks out more rapidly because you have lots of others to choose from whereas in real life, you may be more likely to give someone a chance even if they have black hair and you prefer blondes or if they are short when you prefer a taller female. In online dating, you set this criteria up and would be more likely to write someone off for any trivial reason.
Oh please! You're complaining about those guys being superficial but I bet all those guys are complaining about how you wasted their time by mis-advertising yourself. And the fact you've done this repeatedly tells me you don't respect other people's time. You get no sympathy from me.
Why do you say it's other people's fault you don't meet their expectations? Date in your league and this won't be a problem anymore
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Oh please! You're complaining about those guys being superficial but I bet all those guys are complaining about how you wasted their time by mis-advertising yourself. And the fact you've done this repeatedly tells me you don't respect other people's time. You get no sympathy from me.
Why do you say it's other people's fault you don't meet their expectations? Date in your league and this won't be a problem anymore
What does "date in your league" supposed to mean? You know NOTHING about me and come on here making these assumptions about me misrepresenting myself! I do the best that I can to represent myself properly but STILL superficial guys (and I bet you are one too) still get turned off!
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Oh ... Don't get me wrong ... There are superficial people in real life as well BUT here's the difference...
When you are online, you are screening folks out more rapidly because you have lots of others to choose from whereas in real life, you may be more likely to give someone a chance even if they have black hair and you prefer blondes or if they are short when you prefer a taller female. In online dating, you set this criteria up and would be more likely to write someone off for any trivial reason.
It seems like this is precisely what happens with online "screening" and I've seen it firsthand. Was doing a plumbing repair over at a friend of a friend's house as a favor, and while I was working in the adjoining bathroom, it was clear this middle-aged gal was "assessing" guys at an online dating site, and with her 20-something daughter! Wasn't difficult to hear both their comments on various guys ("oh, he looks too much like a mama's boy, eww, he's too fat...", etc.). And perhaps there are a lot of guys who approach it in the same way, but in any case I don't think folks are usually quite as "critical", "superficial" or "comparative" when meeting folks IRL.... where these are all real people, not shopping on eBay!
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I gave you props for doing online dating. I'm too scared to take the step. 
