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When something's true, it's true, even if Antlered says it.
I can't seem to follow the logic here.
"Even if Antlered says it" clearly implies that Antlered typically makes fallacious assumptions. Why the exception?
If anything, his statement should make you reconsider your standpoint.
And no offence to you Antlered....Just trying to make a point here. A man obliging a woman's offer to split, even on the first date, isn't a clear cut guarantee that he's a bad bet.
It's the first date so the man should pay... unless you've been a take charge girl and you've been pursuing him and asked him out then you should pay.
Not that big a deal.
One thing to do is to reach for the bill yourself... if he is a gentleman he'll insist he pays and yeah you know you have a good one... in that regard. Actually probably a good test because if he doesn't insist on paying that should tell you something as well.
One thing to do is to reach for the bill yourself... if he is a gentleman he'll insist he pays and yeah you know you have a good one... in that regard. Actually probably a good test because if he doesn't insist on paying that should tell you something as well.
Which means offering to pay is not a genuine act. It's a test, which was the exact word you used. Quite manipulative.
Nothing new here, it's just the whole who-pays-for-the-1st-date ordeal. I'm going on my 1st date (in 2 years) tonight with a guy I have been talking with for 2 weeks. I like him a lot and I believe the feeling is mutual, but all that will be confirmed tonight. So my question is, how do I approach the bill situation without sending the wrong signals? I don't want to come off as a freeloader so I would have liked to pay or meet halfway. But I understand some guys would interpret that as perhaps I'm no longer interested. Should I just let him pay? Would this be a big deal for the 40+ crowd?
Yes I sound naive, I know, but I haven't done these things in a long time.
So I'll sit tight waiting to hear from you, and in the meantime, I will worry about what to wear tonight.
Who asked whom out?
That person pays. If I ask a guy out, I pay.
Why not do something that involves 2 things, like coffee and movie and pay for one.
Strangely, I always enjoyed mini-golf for a first date because it was minimally active, outdoors and non-threatening. Then ice cream or coffee. You could split something like that.
Yup, thats what I do, If I pay for the dinner you pay for the movie or vice versa.
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