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OP, I wouldn't normally suggest this, but depending on your location, there are many fine young gentlemen on this board that would actually treat you quite well, and be appreciative of you.
You also may have been saturating yourself with the dreaded desperation vibe.
The desperation vibe is ALWAYS (without exception) off putting- regardless of how great looking an individual is.
No, I don't think I'm sending off a desperation vibe (whatever that is). I've seen peers when I was in HS act "desperate"...fawning over guys, texting them, calling them...nope, not me. I'm very old school...a guy needs to make the moves, not me. I am quiet/shy...I think that has a lot to do with it.
As for the recommendation to start drinking...no thanks, I'll pass. I'm not even of legal drinking age...and I'm not a lawbreaker. And partying until the wee hours...who has the time? The only parties I even hear about are those were the kids are talking non-stop about drinking and getting lucky...that's not me. I also don't have a lot of time...I'm pulling a 4.0, and plan to keep it that way, lol. It's all I can do to keep up with school and personal obligations. The more I type, the more I think I see the problem...I don't have time, haha. Then again, for the right guy, I'd make time.
You sound/look like a winner. Just relax- and find some healthy social activities where you can meet the right people. Learn how to laugh and enjoy yourself (not that you don't now). Find a group activity that is something you're interested in- don't go with the intent of "finding someone". Give it time. 'Totally agree with the other comments, 18 is no time to panic.
No, I don't think I'm sending off a desperation vibe (whatever that is). I've seen peers when I was in HS act "desperate"...fawning over guys, texting them, calling them...nope, not me. I'm very old school...a guy needs to make the moves, not me. I am quiet/shy...I think that has a lot to do with it.
As for the recommendation to start drinking...no thanks, I'll pass. I'm not even of legal drinking age...and I'm not a lawbreaker. And partying until the wee hours...who has the time? The only parties I even hear about are those were the kids are talking non-stop about drinking and getting lucky...that's not me. I also don't have a lot of time...I'm pulling a 4.0, and plan to keep it that way, lol. It's all I can do to keep up with school and personal obligations. The more I type, the more I think I see the problem...I don't have time, haha. Then again, for the right guy, I'd make time.
Well, it seems like your priorities are set. However, you have loads of time.
This was my sister, for a time. She was going to study abroad and go to Japan for a year. We were talking about it at home for a while. It was new years eve. I already had two to three beers in me, plus a shot. She just looked disgusted about drinking. I told her that you can still be responsible for your actions, school and work, but you can unwind a little, too.
While you're mentality isn't bad, people, even some men, can read it like it was stamped across your face. Things are changing around the world, too. Women are pursuing men, where it was the opposite earlier on. Have some fun, every now and then. You never know, you might even start enjoying it.
No, I don't think I'm sending off a desperation vibe (whatever that is). I've seen peers when I was in HS act "desperate"...fawning over guys, texting them, calling them...nope, not me. I'm very old school...a guy needs to make the moves, not me. I am quiet/shy...I think that has a lot to do with it.
As for the recommendation to start drinking...no thanks, I'll pass. I'm not even of legal drinking age...and I'm not a lawbreaker. And partying until the wee hours...who has the time? The only parties I even hear about are those were the kids are talking non-stop about drinking and getting lucky...that's not me. I also don't have a lot of time...I'm pulling a 4.0, and plan to keep it that way, lol. It's all I can do to keep up with school and personal obligations. The more I type, the more I think I see the problem...I don't have time, haha. Then again, for the right guy, I'd make time.
Don't take this the wrong way, but you don't sound like a lot of fun for a college chick.
There is more to college than graduating with a 4.0. Depending on what field you are in, a 4.0 can potentially turn OFF more employers than it turns on. Business is more about forging relationships than it is about book smarts, and a 4.0 can indicate you spent your college years with your nose buried in a book instead of out meeting people.
In my opinion, a 3.4 is the perfect college GPA. No employer will turn you down for being too dumb, and you can get out and have a little fun while you're young. You do NOT want to be 30 and look back on college with the realization that you didn't make the most of what should be your best four years ever.
You don't have to be what you consider a "party girl," but you DO need to be social if you want to score in the dating game.
As for the recommendation to start drinking...no thanks, I'll pass. I'm not even of legal drinking age...and I'm not a lawbreaker.
Regarding this statement in particular... are you serious?!? Lighten up. Have you ever driven 5mph (or even 1mph) over the speed limit? How about a rolling right turn through a stop sign when there is no traffic around? Then yes, you are a lawbreaker, just like everyone else.
I knew chicks in college who made statements like yours when they saw someone with a beer in hand, and NONE of them had very many friends OR dates.
You do NOT want to be 30 and look back on college with the realization that you didn't make the most of what should be your best four years ever.
Meh. It's fine to have fun in college, but it shouldn't be the "best years ever". That's sad. There's nothing worse than a 30-year-old overripe frat boy/party girl who hasn't grown up and is trying to relive their glory years every weekend.
Last edited by fleetiebelle; 10-07-2011 at 09:35 AM..
You are only 18. You have plenty of time. Especially, if you don't really want someone. Dating could be trouble. Focus on your academics. But keep an open mind and be open to possibilities. Your time will come.
Maybe the people around you are just not for you. Maybe someone you need is somewhere else. And when you go to "somewhere else", you will meet him.
Bad dating could bring heartaches and that will be in the way of studying.
I am sure you will know the "how to" even without practice. I think it comes natural to normal people (those without special social anxiety)
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