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So my thread gets shut down for being inappropriate, but this thread about porn can stay.
Interesting.
This is not a thread "about porn", it is a thread about a relationship in which porn plays only a small part. There is nothing salacious or distasteful in this thread which puts it against CD's TOS. I have no idea what your thread was about or why it was shut down but assume it was for reason.
This is not a thread "about porn", it is a thread about a relationship in which porn plays only a small part. There is nothing salacious or distasteful in this thread which puts it against CD's TOS. I have no idea what your thread was about or why it was shut down but assume it was for reason.
He was looking for advice and used graphic language. I'm not sure why he is comparing it to this one. Apples and oranges.
Hawk50 the thread was deleted due to the language you were using.
maybe buy a french maid outfit and meet him at the door when he comes home from work one day?
as far as men looking at porn, it is in our nature to look. the form being filled out may or may not be an issue. he may just being seeing what types of responses he'll get, or he may be actively lookign for a hookup. we really can't answer that.
Welcome to humanity, where expecting to keep the same interest in one person for the rest of your life is a fairytale.
Tell that to the millions of 80 year olds world-wide who married young, stayed married for 60 years and are still in love with their spouses. I know several such couples myself. Nothing "fairytale" about that.
I've generally found that people who think life-long commitment and love is fictional are people who haven't had much success in their relationships, have been dumped many times and are bitter and brittle because of it.
maybe buy a french maid outfit and meet him at the door when he comes home from work one day?
as far as men looking at porn, it is in our nature to look. the form being filled out may or may not be an issue. he may just being seeing what types of responses he'll get, or he may be actively lookign for a hookup. we really can't answer that.
My guess is that he likes to do this on his own. This guy doesn't seem like he wants to be in this relationship.
In a healthy relationship, that porn is not necessary. If it takes it to get your motor going, You might need to take a look at yourself to see what is missing.
I'm pretty permissive when it comes to just viewing porn. A lot of us guy do it, maybe most of us. But the part in bold, in my opinion, is what's most suspect. That makes me think this is more than your average guy just needing to get some porn-watching out of his system.
Couldn't have said it better. Porn is one thing, but when he's filling out forms seeking for other females...
OP, I hate to break it to you, but most guys can't truly be satisfied with just one woman regardless of how sweet and attractive she may be. Men have all different kinds of fetishes and desires and they usually involve all different types of women; being married doesn't automatically get rid of those desires. Just like many other guys, I'm into white women, black women, Hispanic women, Asian women, Middle Eastern women, older women (as in 45+), college age women, very athletic women, somewhat chubby women (borderline BBWs), women who are very blessed up top, redheads, blondes, attractive female cops and firefighters (women in uniform), sexy teachers, and many other types. As a result, a lot of married guys look at porn because it allows them to escape reality and satisfy their numerous urges to some extent without actually cheating on their wives.
That said, I'm sure your husband loves you, but the bottom line is that, unlike most women, men are able to seperate love and pure lust. He's probably in the mood for a new sexual adventure or conquest and is trying to escape reality for a bit so that he can clear his mind and go back to being a good husband. Unfortunately, aside from letting him pursue other women from time to time to satisfy his urges, there's virtually nothing you can do to change his mindset or desires.
A 2008 Psychology Today study which enrolled 8300 men and women who voluntarily agreed to let the survey company track their Internet surfing for one year revealed that women actually check-out porn sites just about as frequently as do men. (Survey showed: Men average 23.5 porn site visits per month, versus 18.8 porn visits for the women.)
Also, interestingly, more than half of the porn sites the women visited were of the lesbian variety. (BTW: I'd be much obliged if one of the women reading this post could be so kind as to opine on this fact! I'm curious.)
So, to the OP: you need to get your head into the 21st Century. It's long past the time to face the facts that women are just as sexually-driven as men and that they also fantasize just as much about sex, both the normal and the deviant variety. Women also cheat just as often, and they engage in gay sex far, far more often.
And women talk just as dirty as men do, and actually talk to their friends about sex more than do their male counterpart. Women also take far, far more psychotropic prescription medication than men. Women tend to be more emotional as well, and to let their emotions negatively control their lives.
Just so ya know.
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