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So guys, help me understand this. Is porn a guy thing or a pevert thing, especially for married men? Hubby borrowed my laptop & when I got it back took me over an hour to delete porn sites. Confronted him said they were just pop ups. The 2 disturbing sites were "maidModerator: PG13", especially that we have a maid. Was wondering if he was thinking of banging the maid. The other was "*****hookup". Found he had filled out a form seeking females aged between 18 & 35. I showed him the form & he just dismissed it. Was so disgusted and told him couldnt sleep with him anymore till we go for counselling and renew our vows and start afresh. He didnt seem to take me serious, even turning the TV back on as I talked. I havent given him some since Monday (5 days now). Am I over reacting or should I be concerned with his behaviour?
Women watch it too though. Nothing to do with perversion regardless of marital status.
I would be less concerned about the porn (which MOST married men look at, no big deal...) and more concerned about him moving on to online dating sites. This is not normal.
The fact that he turned on the TV while you were talking tells me he probably doesn't respect you. Do you work outside the home? If not, maybe he thinks you have no other options.
I feel he doesnt respect me either. He normally talks to me harshly and usually blows me off when I'm driving a point across & I'm usually right. we've ended up in unfavorable situations coz he wouldnt listen to me, eg. we moved to a house last month we had no business moving to and ended up moving out last Friday to a house we had no choice and have to move out again after 3 months. last month he invested in an unprofitable business against my advice and made a loss and used the returns to invest in another unprofitable business against my advice. I am doing an MBA and was able to assess the investments. I am a stay at home mom. gave up my career to raise the kids. Will rejoin the workforce once am done with school. Maybe I'll be respected then......
So guys, help me understand this. Is porn a guy thing or a pevert thing, especially for married men? Hubby borrowed my laptop & when I got it back took me over an hour to delete porn sites. Confronted him said they were just pop ups. The 2 disturbing sites were "maidModerator: PG13", especially that we have a maid. Was wondering if he was thinking of banging the maid. The other was "*****hookup". Found he had filled out a form seeking females aged between 18 & 35. I showed him the form & he just dismissed it. Was so disgusted and told him couldnt sleep with him anymore till we go for counselling and renew our vows and start afresh. He didnt seem to take me serious, even turning the TV back on as I talked. I havent given him some since Monday (5 days now). Am I over reacting or should I be concerned with his behaviour?
Porn - is it good or bad for marriage? It depends. Sometimes it could even be good if the husband has needs which are not being met and if he can meet them online. I guess you should judge by results: is he becoming happier or more unhappy as a result? If unhappier, then maybe it's not good for marriage, but if happier and things are well between you, then be thankful for it.
If a husband is unhappy because of his needs not being met, it's not good for the marriage. But if he can meet them through porn, it could only be good for marriage. However, if porn makes him unsatisfied with marriage, well then it's bad. But if he is unhappy already, (before even going to porn) well, then the problem was not porn in the first place, but marriage itself. And going to porn was not the problem.
Supplements are a good thing when they bring benefits.
Do you "give it, permit him, give him some, etc." or do you actually do it because you are feeling horny, think he's hot, have the urge, etc?
It's sad that he is not willing to do his part to tell you what's going on with him when he could try telling you what fantasy he has at least.
When you do it, are there things he does to you or asks for you to do that you don't like and reject?
I'm a romantic person and really desire romance from my spouse. When I suggested we attend a marriage seminar early this month he said he had no time for romance only for making money. He usually says I shouldnt let the romance on TV decieve me coz it doesnt exist. I tell him I need romance as a lady but looks like all he wants is to be serious all the time and not fun loving Nd it surprises me that the guy who doesnt want to be romantic with me is busy exploring the world of porn, even mature mums porn...I dont get it...
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