Do you think having sex too early in the relationship kills the potential for a long-term relationship? (dating, women)
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See, I have a theory if you really like someone, you'll still like them even if it's easy for you to sleep with them. I, personally, don't think it's the sex that kills the relationship. I think it's that you didn't like them *that much* to begin with and now that you no longer want to have sex with them (because you already have), there's nothing left that's interesting about them.
I'm really curious to see what the rest of you think.
See, I have a theory if you really like someone, you'll still like them even if it's easy for you to sleep with them. I, personally, don't think it's the sex that kills the relationship. I think it's that you didn't like them *that much* to begin with and now that you no longer want to have sex with them (because you already have), there's nothing left that's interesting about them.
I'm really curious to see what the rest of you think.
If anything having sex early in the relationship cements the relationship.
See, I have a theory if you really like someone, you'll still like them even if it's easy for you to sleep with them. I, personally, don't think it's the sex that kills the relationship. I think it's that you didn't like them *that much* to begin with and now that you no longer want to have sex with them (because you already have), there's nothing left that's interesting about them.
I'm really curious to see what the rest of you think.
So ALWAYS have sex on the first date so you can tell if they're exciting just because of the sex or because you have a deepter connection.
I think that if things naturally flow in that direction early on, there's no need to fight it. My most successful relationships have involved sex in the first couple weeks of dating, while my trail of failures either never got there or we slept together after awhile of dating and things petered out pretty quickly after that.
Not to say that having sex early in a relationship makes for a more successful relationship, it just doesn't hurt it.
Depends on the people involved. Some people make a relationship out of things aftr sex, some people need to establish more of a connection first. Lastly, sometimes people confuse the act of having sex with making love...
It depends on the people involved. If they're mature, sure. Please don't flame me for this but I tend to agree with the 'theory' that sex early in the relationship just makes things less interesting as the relationship goes on. You need to keep things interesting instead of stealing to the home plate. (bad example I know ).
It can hurt depending on the type of guy you get. You would be naive as a women to think men are not different and don't just want sex and can separate that from love so how many times are you going to subject your body to a guy who doesn't have the same intentions as you? And why won't you take the time to find out his intentions and depth of interest in you before subjecting yourself to possible pregnancy, std's?
It sounds like you're trying to rationalize questionable behavior Sunshine. What's wrong? Don't you believe that you are intelligent, attractive and charming enough for a man to keep him interested?
It can hurt depending on the type of guy you get. You would be naive as a women to think men are not different and don't just want sex and can separate that from love so how many times are you going to subject your body to a guy who doesn't have the same intentions as you? And why won't you take the time to find out his intentions and depth of interest in you before subjecting yourself to possible pregnancy, std's?
It sounds like you're trying to rationalize questionable behavior Sunshine. What's wrong? Don't you believe that you are intelligent, attractive and charming enough for a man to keep him interested?
Here's what I think: leading a guy on by withholding sex is not going to suddenly and magically make him fall in love with you. He has to like you for who you are already. If he does, sleeping with him is not going to change that.
Not necessarily. I think sex isn't the biggest factor in whether something goes long term or not. The most important thing is that both people WANT something long term and serious and if their personalities are compatible or not. After that sex is negotiable and some people prefer to jump on that while others prefer to take it slow. It's all part of the compatibility thing I was talking about because if you each have different ideas about it then there will be a problem.
You should wait at least three dates before you screw him.
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