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I'm sorry you really need to wise up you're not good at spotting players at all like you think you are. You did not do anything wrong, other than make a huge mistake. It's him not you. Also don't listen to the people that are telling you first date sex is is all fine and dandy...they probably did not meet their spouse through online dating. I don't mean to sound cruel but it's the harsh reality. I've dated women that would have smelled this coming over the internet before you even met the guy. Online dating is brutal the guys with the worst intentions are the ones that know how to work it. The guy clearly stated he is even thinking about moving.
How is that a huge mistake? As long as they used protection everything will be fine. Either he'll want to see her again or he won't. There's no reason to be dramatic about it.
If more time passes without a call it wouldn't hurt for the OP to tell the guy she wants to go out with him again. If he doesn't respond or says he doesn't want to, then you can move on. Right now the OP has no idea what he's thinking.
How is that a huge mistake? As long as they used protection everything will be fine. Either he'll want to see her again or he won't. There's no reason to be dramatic about it.
If more time passes without a call it wouldn't hurt for the OP to tell the guy she wants to go out with him again. If he doesn't respond or says he doesn't want to, then you can move on. Right now the OP has no idea what he's thinking.
Like to get used much? Sorry I don't really believe in just hooking up for fun so to me this is a sad case. Especially when the op is cleary expressing disappointment..in case you didn't notice. If I really liked a girl I would not be handling it the way the guy is at all.
How is that a huge mistake? As long as they used protection everything will be fine. Either he'll want to see her again or he won't. There's no reason to be dramatic about it.
While I wouldn't say it's a HUGE mistake, "protection" isn't infallible. A woman certainly can get pregnant or an STD even if she (or the man) uses protection. This is only the most practical reason to not have sex on the first date, but there are others, as evidenced by the subject title alone.
Sex is perfectly okay on the first date IF you don't care about what happens after the sex. And since you are disappointed and since you wanted a relationship out of it, the sex was obviously a bad idea and you are at fault. Just gotta learn from your mistakes. If you want a relationship with someone, DO NOT give them sex right away. That's probably the worst mistake you can possibly make. Unfortunately though, you are not alone. Many girls make that mistake and end up getting hurt from it.
Sex is perfectly okay on the first date IF you don't care about what happens after the sex. And since you are disappointed and since you wanted a relationship out of it, the sex was obviously a bad idea and you are at fault. Just gotta learn from your mistakes. If you want a relationship with someone, DO NOT give them sex right away. That's probably the worst mistake you can possibly make. Unfortunately though, you are not alone. Many girls make that mistake and end up getting hurt from it.
I agree with your points. She met him online most women are very careful online for a variety of reasons. He saw her as easy prey when she noticed how fast she was open to moving. I've seen 10,000 women talk about their online dating experience they very rarely if ever go back to the house on the first date it's not even considered safe or smart either one.
It's like hunting in an area that is notoriously hard to hunt in and you've stumbled on to a deer that is walking right towards you with a smile on its face.
On the opposite side though, I met a girl online and after two dates, there was no sex or kissing. Apparently that wasn't appealing to her, so she decided to start seeing my friend and ended up having sex with him rather quickly. So my take on it is that before you meet the person, it's probably best to talk to the person and ask exactly what their intentions are, especially dealing with sex. It may be odd talking to someone you don't know about sex, but it'll definitely save you time if both people are expecting two different things.
On the opposite side though, I met a girl online and after two dates, there was no sex or kissing. Apparently that wasn't appealing to her, so she decided to start seeing my friend and ended up having sex with him rather quickly. So my take on it is that before you meet the person, it's probably best to talk to the person and ask exactly what their intentions are, especially dealing with sex. It may be odd talking to someone you don't know about sex, but it'll definitely save you time if both people are expecting two different things.
I think she did the wrong thing but whatever...a lot of women appreciate a guy that doesn't want to move too fast. I would not change due to the way she was. Also that's kind of wierd what's the deal with your friend anyway? I agree it's never too early to talk about sex. I think it's important so that nothing is assumed and it's good to know where someone stands on an issue.
I would not change due to the way she was. Also that's kind of wierd what's the deal with your friend anyway?
Oh, he's not a friend anymore. Lol. That was about a year ago. I have talked to him twice since then.
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