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Is this a reflection of how things really are? A generational thing?
Particularly that men are mainly attracted to looks, and women are demanding and want a tall, handsome man with money. It seems that many here see these as unchangeable rules. Also I notice quite a bit of male bashing recently...
No I don't believe this is true outside of the internet. Just go out to any crowded event and look around, you'll see majority of couples defy what you read on the internet/this forum.
...What male bashing?
Most tv writers are male, if you bother to look at the credits.
But they are paid to conform with social trends, hence the disgusting depictions of males on TV. They sell out their own gender in addition to prostituting themselves for a buck.
I have to agree with PrairieParson - the little I watch of television, at least in commercials, portrays the majority of men as simple-minded, beer-guzzling idiots with pot-bellies who fear "the missus" and have as much manliness as a can of beans. Although this is probably becoming truer as this society becomes weaker, I don't believe it's anywhere near the levels portrayed on TV.
I think there's a huge misunderstanding here between describing the world as it is, and prescribing a rule as it should be.
Some who think of themselves as learned folks like to call it the is-ought distinction/fallacy, or description vs. prescription but day-to-day common sense shows the distinction quite well (still, some people don't seem to get it).
Note two different ideas, as terms are themselves used here. Generalizations (or stereotypes if you so choose to call them) describe the world, such as how people act. Guidelines/rules tell us how the world should be, such as how people should act.
Let's use a fictional example.
Let's say, imagine we found out: Women eat more apples than men.
Someone tells you. "Men don't eat apples much."
Describing: This is the way the world is, from all that we see around us (whether we saw this through experience, or know about it some other way, such as conducting a survey about apple consumption or talking with friends on their fruit-eating habits). It doesn't tell us how any of us should act or do or do otherwise or if it is good or bad or should change, just that it is so as in "I'm just tellin' ya what I see" with no judgement.
Prescribing: Men don't eat apples much? Okay, this is a rule/guideline/way to live by. I see that's how it should be. If you are a man and happen to be doing so at the moment, stop eating as many apples as your wife does! Put that fruit basket down now!
See the difference, a command to act versus a description?
Oh young grasshopper....you surely have much to learn. Most important - do not use this forum for anything other than entertainment. Okay?
No, I think we should lay down some standards for the relationship forums. Shallow, materialistic, outdated and paternalistic posts should get slammed and the poster corrected or called on their BS!
No Snooki, Mickey D or Doug & Carrie Heffernan types! You either bring a brain or at least a social conscious or you get the rules explained to you.
Is this a reflection of how things really are? A generational thing?
Particularly that men are mainly attracted to looks, and women are demanding and want a tall, handsome man with money. It seems that many here see these as unchangeable rules. Also I notice quite a bit of male bashing recently...
You realize that majority of your posts and questions revolve around sterotypes and generalizations of entire states and countries right.. ? You're one of the biggest offenders.
Is this a reflection of how things really are? A generational thing?
Particularly that men are mainly attracted to looks, and women are demanding and want a tall, handsome man with money. It seems that many here see these as unchangeable rules. Also I notice quite a bit of male bashing recently...
Some gender bashing on a forum is par for the course. Don't believe everything you read here.
To the OP:
It's called social psychology and it's valid, since those PhDs conducting these "stereotype" studies have to strongly adhere to statistical sampling rules,
Or, it's called "20,000 Frenchmen can't be wrong."
Or, it's called "the battle of the sexes," which has probably always existed, but only recently become openly discussed.
I'm not at all troubled by stereotyping for the reasons listed above.
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