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Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Originally Posted by ben242000
Guys will always be attracted to girls other than their SO. It's a fact of life. He doesn't need to state this obnoxiously, but it sounds like what he did was incredibly minor. He's honest, what else could you want?
Edit: just read them. If he doesn't respect her, then she should respect herself and dump him. He's still being honest about what he's saying, but maybe not honest in his actions in dragging her along.
I tried to let it go when something like this happen before, but then it makes him feel like it's ok to do that since i didn't make a fuss. So he does that repeatly. He just can't learn, even after a few fights about the same issue, he still does it.
He never describe me as " hot", it's the word he use to describe other women.
He does complement me, but it's he's saying that just for the relationship sake. He says things like" you are beautiful, you look nice" etc. But never looked at me like the way he looks at other women. I'm just sad and confused.
He's also attractIed so someone who's wearing a lot makeup, fabulous hair do, and fabulous dresses. I can't do that cause of the nature of my job.
I know i overeated, but it's like the old issues got burried for too long and they all just exploded.
I understand your frustrations. Have you told him this? If you have, and he still does it, then he is just being a jerk. However, if you've never really expressed these feelings with him, then how would he know..I think alot of people need sensitivity training (both men and women). I think everyone can use a little time to think before they open their mouths. I'm not naive. I'm sure there are guys my girl thinks look good that she might see from time to time. However, she doesn't mention it. Just as I see women that I find attractive from time to time (I'm very picky) and I wouldn't say anything because it would hurt my girls feelings. Why would I want to intentionally do that? I wouldn't. I think that most people who are past a certain age understand that "almost all people" are going to see other people from time to time who causes them to take a second look. That's natural.
I think it's kind of cruel that he reserves certain things for other women and doesn't acknowledge you in that way. He seems a bit insensitive. Maybe even a bit immature. I don't know how old you are. But I will say this. You are going to get older. We all do. Such is life. There will come a time when this might bother you less. You will come to an understanding that while he might not tell you he thinks your "hot" too. That you will just know that he does think that about you, otherwise, he most likely would not be with you. Sometimes we find something in others that make us really like them and we really can't pin point a certain reason why. Maybe your that type to him. Which in my eyes is the best type. That's that rare type of chemistry where you get the other person but don't know why.. It's not your hair. It's not your lips. Not your thighs. Not your backside. It's the whole package. He also might be reserved to telling you nice things, because he wants to keep you wondering (possibly a touch of games)..A lot of people do this type of thing. They think that if they give too much to someone that that person will stop liking them (a bit insecure maybe). They feel there needs to remain some mystery/doubt. It could be as simple as that. I really woudn't worry too much about it..
My biggest thing that I've learned in life when dealing with any girlfriend is to pick my battles. You have to let some things go. No matter how they make you feel. Otherwise your giving the other person way too much power. If he knows you can be so easily hurt, he will have more buttons to push. Don't know if that makes any sense.
So bf and I were watching Bachelor show together when there's a sexy woman showed up in the show, bf eyes went pop out and make this adimiring " wow" sound like he has never seen a beautiful woman before. He has never looked/admired me that way.
I felt hurt and yelled at him. Am I wrong?
Is this is same boyfriend who uses his daughters first and middle name when he refers to her and you are sensitive to the middle name because it is his exwife's name?
Or is this is boyfriend who told you that you looked "fobbish" one night when you were going to go out with a friend?
Is this is same boyfriend who uses his daughters first and middle name when he refers to her and you are sensitive to the middle name because it is his exwife's name?
Or is this is boyfriend who told you that you looked "fobbish" one night when you were going to go out with a friend?
I didn't know that part, I was blaming the bf but now I'm thinking it may be OP's issue
So bf and I were watching Bachelor show together when there's a sexy woman showed up in the show, bf eyes went pop out and make this adimiring " wow" sound like he has never seen a beautiful woman before. He has never looked/admired me that way.
I felt hurt and yelled at him. Am I wrong?
Serious man card violation. Quick, get him a beer and change the channel to ESPN before it is too late.
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. Am I wrong?
I didn't know that part, I was blaming the bf but now I'm thinking it may be OP's issue
