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Does it reflect badly on a woman if her facebook isn't being blown up all of the time? If it's obvious she's not a very popular person?
I think this is related to the fact that I'm well aware that I'm perceived as "lower status".
Usually I have found it's the woman that's usually concerned that her future partner has a healthy amount of friends. Per their dating profiles.
I have seen situations where the woman is quite the social butterfly when out, and if or when he joins her....he kind of sits off to the side, just tolerating it. Usually he can't wait to leave the venue.
Does it reflect badly on a woman if her facebook isn't being blown up all of the time? If it's obvious she's not a very popular person?
I think this is related to the fact that I'm well aware that I'm perceived as "lower status".
Why would it?
I've been on Facebook since 2010. I've posted, in all that time, twelve things. Eight photos of old interesting buildings around town, three scenery photos, and one of my dog. I have under 70 friends. Minus family there's 10 of them I interact with via chat routinely & even then there maybe a 6 months gap. The rest I may give a thumbs up to here or there if they post something interesting.
FB to me is a means of contacting long distance friends or family without jacking up the phone bill. Except for a handful of interesting 'group sites' it's irrelevant.
Does it mean I'm not a very popular person? Hardly. I am a friendly, outgoing sociable person who prefers face to face interactions. The sort of person who has no problems striking up a conversation with complete strangers. And I am very well liked & extremely popular.
If you look at the happiness research, after a divorce or death of a spouse, men tend to die earlier and their experience with depression is much higher than women, whereas with women, divorce or death of a spouse doesn't cause the depression or shorten there life span. When the researchers probed a little more for why this was happening it turns out in most couples, the female tends to set the social agenda for the couple. Her friends are much more likely than his friends to become the couples friends. So when they break up, she tends to keep most of her friends and he often finds himself much more isolated.
I think this is typically attributed to men desiring companionship more so than the other way around. Men long for companionship to the point where it can impact them to the point where if they loose someone, be it a break up, divorce, or death, it hits them harder than it would if the situation were flipped.
Of course, if their marriage made it into their elder years, if one dies, the other typically soon follows...regardless of gender.
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the female tends to set the social agenda for the couple. Her friends are much more likely than his friends to become the couples friends.
Good point. I think once a man goes around socializing as a bachelor, with the end game of finding a woman in his life, his interest in being sociable goes down as he's attained his goal. As I Mentioned earlier, this is why men tolerating going out to events with his wife or girlfriend is only tolerated...but he does get antsy. Not saying all men do this, but I've heard numerous stories where men equated the situation to no different than going with a woman clothes shopping. lol
Some of these guys just wind up wall flowers at his wife's gatherings. I recall Bill Burr being like this. Just hanging at the refreshment table, by himself....not really interested in engaging with anyone.
FB to me is a means of contacting long distance friends or family without jacking up the phone bill.
How does it jack up the phone bill? This isn't the 1980s anymore. lol. People are on monthly cell phone subscription plans. Per minute rates don't exist anymore...at least not in a traditional sense. Unless...maybe, you're calling Internationally.
I don't care as much about the number of friends as the quality of friends she has. If she has a few people that will be there for her in a jam if for some reason, I couldn't, then that is great. If it is a bunch of "seat fillers" who don't really care about her and may even get envious of her if something good happens, bless her heart, that's gotta be tough to deal with fake friends.
I myself don't have that many friends because I screen everyone.
Does it reflect badly on a woman if her facebook isn't being blown up all of the time? If it's obvious she's not a very popular person?
I think this is related to the fact that I'm well aware that I'm perceived as "lower status".
A guy might care if a woman is anti-social, but he's not going to gauge that by likes or friends on her facebook page. A woman who puts herself out too much on facebook is also a red flag, as it's too likely she will put too much of their relationship out to the world.
A man contemplating a real-life relationship with a woman is going to pay more attention to who her real-life friends are, how she relates to them, and how much time she spends with them.
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