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It's weird.. Some people can easily hook up with girls etc..
For Others it is so hard, I don't know what to do anymore, I've tried every possible solution and yet I can't get anything! I don't look ugly, I have a good attitude, I take care of my self etc etc, and yet I'm ignored.
No woman wants a guy who thinks of himself as pathetic. You need to work on your self esteem first, learn to love yourself and your life, before you can find someone that will love you. Some guys tend to think that they are pathetic and lead a pathetic life, but if they could onoly land a girlfriend, their life would change to great overnight. It doesnt work that way. Create an interesting life for yourself, along with healthy level of self confidence and self esteem, and women will pick up on that, without you having to say it or even demonstrate it.
I agree. Try improving other aspects of your life - career, health, social life. Self confidence will come from achievements & balance in life. You might not be ready for committment because you feel you need to fix or accomplish other important things in life. Make a list, have a timeline & start working on them for a while. When you have that feeling of accomplishment, you would stop feeling pathetic & would crave to share your life with someone special. All the best.
I think if you're so used to rejection, and I'm assuming your home life condition wasn't well-suited, you're going to have difficulties with acknowledging the fact that people will actually like you for who you are once they get to know you.
A part of self-acceptance comes with learning to admit that you won't always win, and you won't always lose.
Once you do find that bond with someone and it may feel overwhelming, you can remind yourself that fear is the only thing that's holding you back.
It's weird.. Some people can easily hook up with girls etc..
For Others it is so hard, I don't know what to do anymore, I've tried every possible solution and yet I can't get anything! I don't look ugly, I have a good attitude, I take care of my self etc etc, and yet I'm ignored.
I agree. Try improving other aspects of your life - career, health, social life. Self confidence will come from achievements & balance in life. You might not be ready for committment because you feel you need to fix or accomplish other important things in life. Make a list, have a timeline & start working on them for a while. When you have that feeling of accomplishment, you would stop feeling pathetic & would crave to share your life with someone special. All the best.
A little ahead of you... I doubt by the time I take care of what I need to take care of, I would have that craving.
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Originally Posted by kat949
I think if you're so used to rejection, and I'm assuming your home life condition wasn't well-suited, you're going to have difficulties with acknowledging the fact that people will actually like you for who you are once they get to know you.
A part of self-acceptance comes with learning to admit that you won't always win, and you won't always lose.
Once you do find that bond with someone and it may feel overwhelming, you can remind yourself that fear is the only thing that's holding you back.
It's not that I'm used to rejection...or maybe it is (I'm rarely rejected, I myself had to call some things off because...I just had to)
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Get a g/f from one of her g/f's. Or sleep with them.
Or a g/f outside of her friend's circle and tell the girl that put you on the FZ. Be cocky/funny.
Or you can just forget about the girl who friend zoned you... Easier said than done,, but sometimes you should just move on
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The more haters you have means you are doing well.
Yeah, thanks...
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