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So this guy and I met online about a month ago. We met in person about a week later and had a blast, we sat and talked nonstop for 6+ hours. The next day though I called and asked if he wanted to hang out again that night, and he said he was busy and would be busy the next night. However he did text and call me a few times over the next couple of days, though. But those 2 times he called he was drinking, and one time he texted and said "is it bad if i say i'm in the mood?"
A few days after our date I texted him and asked him if he was interested in dating anyone else, and he said "kind of" and then said "i'm not looking for a relationship right now."
He won't have sex with me because I'm a virgin and he says he doesn't have sex with virgins if it's not going to go anywhere, but he still hangs out with me sometimes. And when we do he always flirts with me. I asked him if he was stringing me along and he said no. He does know I like him, though. And once I asked if he liked me and could see us being together and he said "i haven't known you long enough to even know if we'd be compatible".
I've also learned that he only has female friends, and doesn't like having male friends, if that means anything.
So what I want to know is is he into me at all? Was his goal when we first met up to find another girl to screw and once he learned I was a virgin it ruined it for him? Is there anything I can do to make him want a relationship with me, or should I move on before I get more attached and end up heartbroken?
Why would you like a relationship with him?? You didn't mentioned anything positive about him, except that you got a good talk for 6 hrs. He said that he is not interested in a relationship, he only hang out with you when he has time and is in the "mood". He flirts with you probably when he is drunk - oh, yeah... he drinks, you said.
So, say again, why you want him so badly?
BTW: I was looking for "signals" and found none...
Why would you like a relationship with him?? You didn't mentioned anything positive about him, except that you got a good talk for 6 hrs. He said that he is not interested in a relationship, he only hang out with you when he has time and is in the "mood". He flirts with you probably when he is drunk - oh, yeah... he drinks, you said.
So, say again, why you want him so badly?
BTW: I was looking for "signals" and found none...
He doesn't only hang out with me when he's in the mood, when we hang out we go do things like bowling. And he's never hung out with me when he was drinking, the only times I've talked to him when he was drinking were the two times he called me.
I want him because he's a nice guy. I think our personalities mesh well. He's a lot of fun to be around. I've never had a guy be as nice to me as he has been.
Why would you like a relationship with him?? You didn't mentioned anything positive about him, except that you got a good talk for 6 hrs. He said that he is not interested in a relationship, he only hang out with you when he has time and is in the "mood". He flirts with you probably when he is drunk - oh, yeah... he drinks, you said.
So, say again, why you want him so badly?
BTW: I was looking for "signals" and found none...
That was my first thought.
If he is a "player" he would have taken her virginity and not given it a second thought.
Could be he is "in the closet".
Loads of "could bes", my advice is avoid getting into any relationship with him.
Something else I'm confused about: Why would he go on a date with me if he knew he wasn't looking for a relationship? If casual sex was his intention all along, why wouldn't he bring that up before we even met? And if it wasn't and him saying he didn't want a relationship right now was his way of turning me down, why does he continue to talk to me and flirt with me?
Something else I'm confused about: Why would he go on a date with me if he knew he wasn't looking for a relationship? If casual sex was his intention all along, why wouldn't he bring that up before we even met? And if it wasn't and him saying he didn't want a relationship right now was his way of turning me down, why does he continue to talk to me and flirt with me?
Men are so confusing. Can any guys explain this?
Maybe he thought you were easy and casual sex would come right away, how did you expect him to bring up "I am looking for meaningless sex, not any kind of relationship"?
Women tend to be confusing sometimes too, well most of the time ...
Quit wasting your time and move on. He already told you he does not want a relationship right now. Can't be much more clear than that.
So he is a nice guy who treated you well, they did make more of those you just have to find one who really is good for you and interested in more than casual play time.
Since you are calling it a "date", you put into a completely different meaning, while for him is it just a casual time with you.
Now you are pondering about his "mixed messages" , but I bet he thinks he is not sending any.
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