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I've seen that among high ranking military. They don't like being questioned or objected to. "Just do what I say, my way is how it works" kinda people.
Then you have some men that are really just sick of arguing and fighting over everything under the sun. And it's often women of certain ethnicities who do behave this way. Then when dude don't want nothing to do with her "You can't handle a strong woman"
I recant what I said. I was just looking at OLD page. When I view profiles, and see women skydiving, on exotic vacations, I find that intimidating. I see that stuff and assume she'd be bored dating me. I don't do that kind of stuff. I couldn't keep up.
That's not intimidation, that's making a judgement on compatibility. You believe you're wasting your time. If I see someone scuba diving or traveling to a lot of different places, that cost money. I mean don't get me wrong, I travel overseas, but it's to see family, I can't afford to drop a grand just to go skiing.
I recant what I said. I was just looking at OLD page. When I view profiles, and see women skydiving, on exotic vacations, I find that intimidating. I see that stuff and assume she'd be bored dating me. I don't do that kind of stuff. I couldn't keep up.
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I recant what I said. I was just looking at OLD page. When I view profiles, and see women skydiving, on exotic vacations, I find that intimidating. I see that stuff and assume she'd be bored dating me. I don't do that kind of stuff. I couldn't keep up.
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Originally Posted by jaycich
That's not intimidation, that's making a judgement on compatibility. You believe you're wasting your time. If I see someone scuba diving or traveling to a lot of different places, that cost money. I mean don't get me wrong, I travel overseas, but it's to see family, I can't afford to drop a grand just to go skiing.
Depends. While what you're saying is true and they would be incompatible, what Bryant17 needs to consider is how seeing those pictures actually makes him feel, in order to properly assess the situation for his own needs.
If I set a box trap and come back to find it closed but empty, either way the box is shut. But was it due to malfunction, or failure? Two different reasons bearing different consideration for each, but the same result to an undiscerning eye.
You yourself cite the finances. If it's "I don't do that" as Bryant17 asserts, and it's because he doesn't DO that, it's a different scenario (despite the identical result) than if he's thinking "I could never afford that, what would such a woman think of me," or even his own words, "I couldn't keep up." The why of not keeping up matters -- not for the women he never approaches, or even for the women at all. It matters if Bryant17 is working on correct self-assessment in pursuit of self-betterment.
If it's a lack of common interests, I doubt he'd ever feel the slightest intimidation. Why? We don't care about insults which aren't true.
If he feels like he could manage his money better, or like he's not doing well enough in his financial life, and thus cares what a woman might think of him not being able to afford things she does -- that's intimidation. His self-assessment requires that he ascertain whether he's interested in women of a different financial caliber than he can currently afford. If that answer is yes, then what does he need to do in order to attain the goal of being more financially viable for a different dating bracket?
Sometimes a person can do something about any perceived shortcoming, if they can identify it. Some things lie beyond our reach, whether currently or forevermore.
Let's also realize men can be this way as well. I've heard men say they're "brutally honest" and people find them intimidating. Come to find out these types of men are more interested in being brutal than honest.
When it comes to myself, I can be very "brutally honest". With others, I avoid telling them what (I think) is wrong with them. Because there are people who will appreciate that aspect of that person.
One type of person I don't have any kind of respect for is someone who insists on being around me just to tell me what is wrong with me. And it is usually petty superficial crap. If I am such a screw up, what do you even want with me? Go find someone else. Often times, they have other issues that are more obvious than mine.
Then they say, "I'm just telling it like it is."
I'm typically a laid back and chill person, but if I am pushed, I will really cut into someone and I will show no mercy.
I've made my last hater cry when he wouldn't leave me alone. He literally stalked me just hard on everything he didn't like about me day in and day out.
I've seen that among high ranking military. They don't like being questioned or objected to. "Just do what I say, my way is how it works" kinda people.
Then you have some men that are really just sick of arguing and fighting over everything under the sun. And it's often women of certain ethnicities who do behave this way. Then when dude don't want nothing to do with her "You can't handle a strong woman"
I'm one of those men... I believe life is too short to be dealing with such pettiness. All the energy wasted arguing can go towards building a better life.
When it comes to myself, I can be very "brutally honest". With others, I avoid telling them what (I think) is wrong with them. Because there are people who will appreciate that aspect of that person.
One type of person I don't have any kind of respect for is someone who insists on being around me just to tell me what is wrong with me..
I recently read an essay about how the people who like to pat themselves on the back for being "brutally honest" rarely have anything positive to say. It's never, "I'm just telling it like it is--you're really good at your job."
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