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Shining example of my ambivalence towards this stuff. I guess I need to grow some thicker skin cause 20 year old women are going to do it whether I like it or not.
She won't if she's your girlfriend, or at least someone you know very well. Everyone has to have a first time. My point is that it's better to have it with someone you know so that there's some level of understanding and respect there. If you just do it with some girl you meet at a party on campus or something, word will get around--especially if you try to pass it off like you've done it before.
It sucks, but there it is. We often hear about guys comparing notes, but young women can be just as bad about that, if not worse. We sure were, and this was back during the Reagan years. We were young and stupid. I cringe to think of it, actually.
You're a virgin. You won't be any good at it. Virgins never are. You'll most likely fumble through foreplay and climax within 15 seconds of starting intercourse. Is that the kind of reputation you want getting around campus? Because trust me: Girls talk.
You're better off waiting until you have a girlfriend so you can work your way up to it.
This is what I'm thinking. Having sex just to lose your virginity shows you're not mature enough to be having sex. That's a high school/adolescent mentality.
This is what I'm thinking. Having sex just to lose your virginity shows you're not mature enough to be having sex. That's a high school/adolescent mentality.
Nah.
Don't listen to these people, man. Just do it and get it over with. Sex is no big deal.
The old fashioned method involved two virgins and you both learned on the job. My day is passed though and getting two unicorns in the same room would probably be tough nowdays. Outside of a girlfriend I'm thinking you might be best off with an older women because Lilac is right, virgins are highly overrated and an older woman will have more compassion for you and be willing to take one for the team getting you through round one in the hopes of more fruitful later rounds.
The old fashioned method involved two virgins and you both learned on the job. My day is passed though and getting two unicorns in the same room would probably be tough nowdays. Outside of a girlfriend I'm thinking you might be best off with an older women because Lilac is right, virgins are highly overrated and an older woman will have more compassion for you and be willing to take one for the team getting you through round one in the hopes of more fruitful later rounds.
The old fashioned method involved two virgins and you both learned on the job. My day is passed though and getting two unicorns in the same room would probably be tough nowdays. Outside of a girlfriend I'm thinking you might be best off with an older women because Lilac is right, virgins are highly overrated and an older woman will have more compassion for you and be willing to take one for the team getting you through round one in the hopes of more fruitful later rounds.
I think he's better off with whatever comes easiest.
OP, I lost my virginity with my gf at 16. It wasn't anything special, really. If the gf situation presents itself, then awesome. But I really think that you should just talk to girls and have sex with the first one willing (hopefully, she'll be on the hotter side, but you just want to get your momentum going at this point so you could pull hotter chicks later).
The older lady thing is all well and good, but it sounds like it'll be too much work to get one (especially since he can't go to bars, being under 21).
The frat thing is a good idea for meeting some hot, promiscuis girls that will be down.
So true! And if OP is 20, why can't he pop again, a little later. I doubt he'd even deflate, between the first and second 'events'. Can't a healthy 20-year-old do it at least three times during one encounter? I've never understood the premature e... thing. I mean, is it over for some people after the first orgasm? Why?
But that leads me to a question. Is OP healthy? Male? Looking for females? Reasonably attractive?
More information please!
But honestly, with as many Internet social networking opportunities as there are out there, why is this a problem? I mean, you don't have to put your putz pics out there on the Net like Brett Favre (Thank you Brett!!!!!), that wrestler, that other wrestler, and countless military stallions (Thank you, guys! I see a new crop of military meat on my Colorist's laptop, every time I go to the salon.). But anyway, there appear to be many opportunities for you to state your strong points and desires, without getting falling-down-drunk in a smoke-filled frathouse or club.... screaming above the music...
Or, you can go to a few Yoga classes, and let the Cougars hit on you.
I can tell you this, though. Alcohol and sex do not mix very well. Between running off to vomit, and being so out-of-your-mind-drunk you don't know what's going on, you will NOT have as good a sexual experience as you would sober. Mornings are best, BTW, and doing it in the dark is not as thrilling, because you lose the visuals.
Oh, and it is important to state that females who stand even a remote chance of getting pregnant should not TOUCH alcohol (or other harmful substances). Inferior offspring who are the products of youthful 'encounters' are all too common. A couple of drinks for the Mother are more than enough to knock a few IQ points off a potential human being. Do you want to be responsible for something like that? Sex can lead to pregnancy. Still...even today... and pregnancy, even for college kids, can lead to babies.
I'm going to tell you about my first time. I was hideous. He was hideous. We were seventeen-year-olds, a few weeks into first semester. We met in Weightlifting 101, both hoping to become less hideous. We started going to free events on campus, together (both being penniless scholarship kids). First real date, he accidentally brushed against me. I brushed back, and felt a big hard something I was not expecting to be there. Oy!
Well, if you've seen the original Bride of Frankenstein.... with the electricity zizzing around her head, then you know my state of mind. Unlike Bride of Frankenstein, however, I did not reject the Monster. I grabbed it, and we've been going at it like Wolverines, ever since. (after three decades of bodybuilding/healthfood/vitamins, we're not ugly anymore)
I probably got knocked-up on that first date. Who knew one little date could be the beginning of so much? If we'd been drinking, our firstborn would not have become a surgeon, and probably would not have been pretty enough to make the marriage she just did. Just be aware. One something generally leads to another something.
Make the same mistakes everybody else does, and you'll end up having the same kind of life everybody else does.
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So true! And if OP is 20, why can't he pop again, a little later. I doubt he'd even deflate, between the first and second 'events'. Can't a healthy 20-year-old do it at least three times during one encounter? I've never understood the premature e... thing. I mean, is it over for some people after the first orgasm? Why?
But that leads me to a question. Is OP healthy? Male? Looking for females? Reasonably attractive?
More information please!
But honestly, with as many Internet social networking opportunities as there are out there, why is this a problem? I mean, you don't have to put your putz pics out there on the Net like Brett Favre (Thank you Brett!!!!!), that wrestler, that other wrestler, and countless military stallions (Thank you, guys! I see a new crop of military meat on my Colorist's laptop, every time I go to the salon.). But anyway, there appear to be many opportunities for you to state your strong points and desires, without getting falling-down-drunk in a smoke-filled frathouse or club.... screaming above the music...
Or, you can go to a few Yoga classes, and let the Cougars hit on you.
I don't know how good of an indicator porn is for actual sex, but yeah I can do it back to back if I want and don't prematurely ejaculate to it.
And yeah, I'm perfectly healthy. My attractiveness is a problem, cause I look too young for my age. And I'm 6'0 140, which probably makes me look even younger. But aside from that, no legit deformities or anything too abnormal. Hopefully working out will help build some self confidence.
Mostly it's just insecurity though. Been a problem for me for many years.
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