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When I was in my 20s I didn't really care. If I were single now I would care. If my husband were to lose his job, god forbid, he'd work at McD's and grab a paper route if he had to.
Well... I opted for giving him a chance because:
There could be many reasons why he is not working right now, and as long he is not a bum and used to have a steady job, there is a hope he will get one again.
A guy should be not expected to spend a lots of money on the date. What about a cheap but a quality time together, well spent to learn about each other?
A cup of coffee, a walk in the park ... and an interesting conversation means to me way more than a boring evening in an exclusive restaurant, or two hours in a movie...
And - I dont think there is anything wrong with a girl paying for a cup of coffee if the guy is indeed hot, interesting AND serious about getting a job, and she thinks he is worth to wait till he gets one.
Otherwise it looks like girls are just suckers and users, and all they care is to date a guy with fat wallet and bank account...
Yes, having a job and a comfortable stream of income is more about the money and what it can buy. What they do and esp. how they got there shows a great deal of ambition, intelligence, and other characteristics that's important to me. The money is just the icing on the cake. Really, sweet and yummy icing.
Well... I opted for giving him a chance because:
There could be many reasons why he is not working right now, and as long he is not a bum and used to have a steady job, there is a hope he will get one again.
A guy should be not expected to spend a lots of money on the date. What about a cheap but a quality time together, well spent to learn about each other?
A cup of coffee, a walk in the park ... and an interesting conversation means to me way more than a boring evening in an exclusive restaurant, or two hours in a movie...
And - I dont think there is anything wrong with a girl paying for a cup of coffee if the guy is indeed hot, interesting AND serious about getting a job, and she thinks he is worth to wait till he gets one.
Otherwise it looks like girls are just suckers and users, and all they care is to date a guy with fat wallet and bank account...
eehhh........there is plenty of time for cheap quality after you get married...LOL
Honestly, the whole job thing is important but it does not have to me him making a massive amount of money, stable, responsible, not in debt, current on everything, everything paid on time and a bit in savings and some spending money just for fun. I like the cheap stuff better than really expensive stuff anyway.
A guy should be not expected to spend a lots of money on the date. What about a cheap but a quality time together, well spent to learn about each other?
And - I dont think there is anything wrong with a girl paying for a cup of coffee if the guy is indeed hot, interesting AND serious about getting a job, and she thinks he is worth to wait till he gets one.
If the guy doesn't have a job, like you said, how about women paying for his meals and drinks and other dating expenses?
I think there's a difference between unemployed and lazy and unemployed, but actively seeking employment.
I'd date a guy with no job if he was out looking. In earnest.
I don't care who pays for what. It's a non issue to me. I care if I'm with someone who has any sort of drive to succeed. Even if his goal is to be a window washer. I don't want someone who wants to be a window washer, yet spends all his time (and my money) sitting around doing nothing.
I was married to a guy who turned into that once. If he hadn't had parents who believed in helping out our family, we would've lost most of what we had. I was a teacher back then, and they don't make much.
He and I eventually divorced. I think he's still mad that I finished grad school, started making a very good salary, and I'm not supporting his lazy ass.
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No aimless trust fund kids for me. For me the appeal of having a job is tied to the idea of ambition. Now if you are independently wealthy and have some worthwhile projects going on, that is OK too. But basically doing nothing productive all the time? No thanks. I could do it for a month or maybe 2. Then I'd be bored out my mind. And I need a similar person.
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