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I've gone after men who are well within or below my 'league' and they've rejected me outright and spent the entire evening buying drink for the super hot girl who just keeps rolling her eyes at him when he turns around.
I find weird dudes attractive though, so my opinions probably shouldn't count for much here
my whole point is, people are not asking the right question. We see fat women everyday who are married and have kids. I think people should be asking, if they were thin, or had more options, would they be with the person that they are currently with.
my whole point is, people are not asking the right question. We see fat women everyday who are married and have kids. I think people should be asking, if they were thin, or had more options, would they be with the person that they are currently with.
I think that depends. I have a few 'larger men' as friends and they've admitted that if they were more 'fit' they'd leave their wives/girlfriends in a heartbeat and go for something better. In fact, one of them lost around 120 lbs over the past year and left his girlfriend about 5 months ago because he felt he could 'do better'. This was the woman who he lived with, who helped him lose all that weight by cooking him food, going grocery shopping for him and supporting him the entire time. What does he do? Leaves her immediately to find a hotter chick.
I'm sure women do the same thing, I just don't have as much experience with it considering most of my friends are men.
How fat is fat here? I ask because a lot of women who I think have a perfect body type, my friends call fat. I have always been more attracted to "thicker" women with bigger bits, thighs etc. and I don't mind the somewhat bigger bellies that come with it.
So are we talking about women with an extremely big belly relative to her overall size. I mean like flab and stretch marks all over the place...the type of woman who's belly will leak under her top? Because I did that once and unfortunately that's now where I draw a line...But that would probably be more closer to obese wouldn't it?...hmmm
I think that depends. I have a few 'larger men' as friends and they've admitted that if they were more 'fit' they'd leave their wives/girlfriends in a heartbeat and go for something better. In fact, one of them lost around 120 lbs over the past year and left his girlfriend about 5 months ago because he felt he could 'do better'. This was the woman who he lived with, who helped him lose all that weight by cooking him food, going grocery shopping for him and supporting him the entire time. What does he do? Leaves her immediately to find a hotter chick.
I'm sure women do the same thing, I just don't have as much experience with it considering most of my friends are men.
I really believe that both men and women who are overweight, end up being with somebody, that if given a different situation would be with, would not be with. That doesn't mean the marriage or relationship is bad or its going to end up in divorce, but they end up settling for one reason or another.
Of course there are men that love fat women. I have a cousin that is so morbidly obese it looks like she is a step away from death(I hate saying it but it's true) and she gets plenty of men. Now are they attractive? Not to me. And are they in tip-top shape, with the best types of careers, etc, etc? Nope. So like someone pointed out the question that needs to be asked is: are fat women undesirable to the typical desirable male(attractive, in shape, tall, decent paying job, insert whatever other qualities a person finds desirable)? Are these women attracting the type of men they TRULY want and are attracted to. Or are they having to settle because their weight hinders their dating options?
I don't see too many upper middle to upper class professional "white collar" men with fat women. It's rare. Typically the woman is thin or in the average size range.
I personally always try to maintain a certain weight, and look a certain way because I know that my "so" is attracted to me looking a certain way. Before I met him, I kept my weight together because I knew what type of man I WANTED to attract. Sure when I was bigger I attracted a ton of male attention, some of which were pretty attractive, but in terms of quality, character, career stability, etc I noticed that I was attracted to a certain type of man and usually this man was not attracted to plus-size or "bigger" women. That's just what I observed. So I did what I had to do(work out and try to keep my weight in a healthy range). That being said I was never able to get under a size 4, and tended to be a little bigger than what I wanted(and still am) my genes are pretty sucky in that while my mom and sisters are all thinner, I was always(even as a toddler) the daughter with bigger legs, bigger hips etc. So, in my mind, I also accepted that there was only so much I could do... If I couldn't get thin, I just couldn't get thin lol.
One thing I notice is that when you are on the slimmer side(not necessarily thin either but just "smaller") and in great shape, and you at least have a decent face, your options will multiply in terms of quality in dating partners--that's just my opinion.
I've gone after men who are well within or below my 'league' and they've rejected me outright and spent the entire evening buying drink for the super hot girl who just keeps rolling her eyes at him when he turns around.
I find weird dudes attractive though, so my opinions probably shouldn't count for much here
I find that it's usually the skinnier to chubby guys who seem to like fat girls. Fat guys usually think any girl that comes within 70 pounds of his weight is too fat for him.
The only time I've been mocked because of my weight was by some fat teenage boy, and when my mom was fat she'd only get comments from majorly fat guys about her weight. No idea why.
It's a relative as they say. When I met my wife she was a bit overweight and I was thin, now she's thin and I am overweight. That said I would never date someone who more than 30 lbs overweight, because beyond that the truth is most are obese and just pretending to be overweight. Now if a woman gained weight while I was dating them due to medical reasons sure I would be understanding. Things happen everyone has issues, everyone.
If I were single would not I date at petite woman that was a nasty personality no. You have to consider the entire person. Us guys are generally more visual than women, but after the honeymoon phase of dating wears off you still want someone that shares your common interest and you enjoy talking to.
I know guys that have basically married for looks and then once they glamour has wore off the shiny package you are left with some nasty or empty personalities. Who want to be married to that for life?
I've always preferred thin and athletic women. I tried to expand my horizons and date a fat woman and it just didn't work, I wasn't attracted.
No need to demonize those who aren't into fat women. Different strokes, different folks and I have plenty of friends who PREFER a bigger woman (even one who we used to tease for watching fat porn ha!).
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