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Let's flip it and see where this goes when a man openly flirts with both male and female co-workers.
I don't think there are enough guys out there comfortable enough with their own sexuality to make cat calls at their male friends lol. Of course, there are always exceptions... Like the guys that walked around the classroom intentionally pitching a tent or the guys doing the no handed clap in the locker room shower... oh high school. good times (once you realize the guy showering next to you isn't actually gay).
I've never told anyone I was straight. And some of them know I've made out with chicks. They do know however, that I have a boyfriend, and I'm only interested in taking him home.
Doesn't matter to a lot of guys! When I worked at the gym - some of the guys I worked with would ask me out - even the married ones - and even though they knew I had a boyfriend. One guy started calling me obsessively until I told him he needed to stop - and he was living with his girlfriend and knew I was living with my boyfriend.
The women you are teasing know that you are straight - therefore they know that you are just playing around. The men you are teasing know that you are straight - therefore they think that it might mean something. I can be flirty with both sexes - I'm flirtatious by nature - but I know that I can't say the same things to men and women because it means something different. This is also why I'm much more touchy feely with my female friends and my gay friends than I am with my straight male friends.
I want you to think of me as one of your gay friends, quite possibly gayer than most.
After all, I'm gay. In fact I'd describe myself as being just as happy as anybody else.
But wouldn't you say some girls misinterpret guys who flirt with them?
I'm kinda' in a situation with my dry cleaner where I can't figure out if he's just a natural flirt and does it with everyone or is intentionally flirting with me.
Well, I don't know how much of your dry cleaner you see but ordinarily I just watch how men interact with other women. Some men are just flirty...but it's pretty apparent because you see them acting that way with multiple women.
I'm a very flirty person by nature and I like to tease people. Like I'll tell one of my female co-workers, "But...why are you so beautiful though? Please explain." Or say, "Our song is on, let's stare into each others eyes and dance slowly." My co-workers know me and they know I like to mess around and be foolish and I'm not hitting on them, but it's like...you can't tease boys who know you the same way. Like I'll tease a male bartender where I work and say pretty much the same things, and then he actually gets the impression that I want to hang out with him after work/am sexually interested whenhe hears me say pretty much the same things to everyone. And act surprised that I'm not interesting in hooking up? Bizarre.
These are all people who know me, so I dungeddid.
Some guys lack the gene that helps them figure out and differentiate what real flirting is apart from just horsin' around. Some guys seem to think that any form of playfulness means we're interested in them. Some guys are just as bright as a box of rocks in a dark room.
Well, I don't know how much of your dry cleaner you see but ordinarily I just watch how men interact with other women. Some men are just flirty...but it's pretty apparent because you see them acting that way with multiple women.
I'm there at least once a month, but I don't really see him with other customers, nor do I see him flirting with his staff. It's so in my face and he knows my husband, therefore knows I'm married, so I keep telling myself he must just be a big flirt.
I'd prefer a punch in the arm...I'm not good at handling flirts.
Probably has something to do with the fact that other women behaving how you do with them. These guys encounter or have encountered other women who act like you (tease, really flirty, etc), and it's because they were attracted to them and probably wanted the D. And yes, it doesn't matter if the girl has a boyfriend in some circumstances.
So, it's pretty easy to understand the confusion, don't cha think ?
Besides, women can makeout with each other and not be considered lesbian or bi, so I doubt most women would think you're coming on to them. And they're probably straight, anyways, so they wouldn't even be thinking about it that way.
FWIW, I hate women like that. Not because it's sending mixed signals or anything, but because it's just annoying.
If you really wanted to cut back on the confusion and having to put up with how they respond, you could just stop teasing them back.
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And act surprised that I'm not interesting in hooking up? Bizarre.
