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maybe its because he loved her. Did you think of that?
It's hard to think someone who loves would not only cheat but rub that on his partner's face for decades. He didn't bring other women home but he surely wasn't exactly discreet as well.
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Originally Posted by Chowhound
No offense OP, but if you have to ask this question, you pretty much don't have a handle on insight into the frailties and fallibilities of humans....
I could understand cheating once or twice, nobody is perfect. But to lose count to the women you have been with?
I'm quite sure he feel remorse. You can't mention my grandmother without a tear coming to his eye.
So, love your Grandfather, clearly he is punishing himself enough. How is it that you know so much about their marriage anyway?? I do not think a child knowing this type information is a good thing. But, since you do, keep it to yourself, and just love him while you have him. Learn from his mistakes. Sorry for your loss.
So, love your Grandfather, clearly he is punishing himself enough. How is it that you know so much about their marriage anyway?? I do not think a child knowing this type information is a good thing. But, since you do, keep it to yourself, and just love him while you have him. Learn from his mistakes. Sorry for your loss.
Of course I love him as grandfather. How do I know? Everybody knows, like I said, you could see him frequently in public with other women. And even nowadays a young girl can't go past without him discreetly rolling his eyes.
Oh, he was a good citizen, a hard working, providing and caring for his family.
He never left his wife - she was the mother of his kids, she had say so, she run the household and raised kids. She was the hearth that had given warmth and comfort, sense of belonging, the heart of the house. A place where he was coming back, a quiet and stable haven for his soul.
I am sure he had respect for that.
What he had on the side was the little thrill, an excitement, a dirty secret - something probably not too terrible in the eyes of the society, as you said he was a macho type, good looking and making good money. Bossy and a bit arrogant. THE MAN.
However i think that he never ever thought about leaving his wife for a little flirt and easy women.
Now he lives with the memories and I am sure he misses his wife terribly.
We have no way of knowing what sort of agreement they may have had as a couple because no one was behind closed doors with them. The fact that she stayed says something since adultery is a reason to divorce if he were actually committing adultery which I am not sure that anyone knows. Often a guy will hang out with women that sort of feeds his soul, a man with a narcissistic personality comes to mind, and they don't have sex but everyone thinks that they do. The wife knows she can trust her husband and understands his need for attention. I have spent a lot of time around both males and females who thrilled on attention from the opposite sex and unless you knew them, you might have thought they were having affairs but it just never went that far. I would cut grandpa some slack if for no other reason than the respect I had for grandma and how she would want me to treat him.
Cause he no longer has anyone to cheat on, his macho man, the I am the man segment of his life is over.
I'd cry too, who is going to do my laundry and cook for me...certainly not his mistress.
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