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You never know what goes on behind closed doors. Re-read post #7, that explanation should help you understand that everything isn't just black & white. Some families have secrets and do some strange things, but I'm reasonably sure your grandfather loved your grandmother very much. Does that make him a hipocrite? No, but it makes you someone who isn't very worldly...
It sounds to me like in spite of all his cheating ways, deep down he really did love her. Not to justify his behavior but in the end she was always the one he would come home to, spend most of his time with, do stuff with, travel with, have dinner with, the list goes on
If anything, he deserves to have those who love him by his side. The thought of being married 54 years and then suddenly losing the one you love is quite saddening whether he cheated or not. Did you also think maybe he regretted all the times he cheated and wishes for a clean conscience? My condolences go out to him
He didn't spend much time with her at all but he showered her with material possessions. Most times really expensive things. Besides, he would never question her decisions when it came to the house and the children.
The only time he truly dedicated his time to her was during her illness. It was also the only time I saw him kiss her.
You do know that Jackie Kennedy knew John F was cheating on her with Marilyn Monroe right? Robert Kennedy was in on the action as well. She still supported John F till he breathed his last breath too. At that time, being a devout Catholic, you supported your husband no matter the transgressions. Very much so the case with your grandmother.
Yes, I know that. That shouldn't mean a free pass for him to have affairs.
My grandparents were married for 54 years. For decades my grandfather had a revolving door of mistresses. He always had an eye for pretty women and wouldn't let the best ones escape (he was extremely good looking when he was younger and up to his 50s). He was a very hard worker, very responsible when it came to the children (even though he was mostly absent) and never mistreated my grandmother. She was in charge at home and he complied. Her word was law.
My grandmother always knew but stayed in her position as a faithful and dedicated wife and mother. She didn't work and was completely dependent on him. She was also very religious and came from an ultraconservative family, so there was no choice but to keep the marriage.
Even as kid I remember sometimes seeing my grandfather in the car with much younger women.
She died just over a year ago from breast cancer. The other day I noticed that my grandfather, always a very arrogant, masculine, full of himself type of guy, now has a picture of her on his desk in the studio. He still doesn't allow anyone to sit in her place at the table.
At her funeral, I couldn't believe when I saw him washed in tears, totally devastated. I mean, this sounds cruel, but now he can have all the women he wants (sure he's old but he has the money). Why be such an hipocrite in the end?
Some men have the ability to seperate love from casual sex?
Who knows. His priorities/credibility obviously messed up; cheating on the long term wife and then turning around and crying about it. Please. Can't beleive nothing he say or do at that point anyways.
Despite everything, I think his affairs were nothing more than a meaningless side action. His wife was number one, the mother of his children and come on, 54 years is 54 years no matter how much of a sleaze he might have been.
I don't know if that has been brought up, but what if it was the wife who had several (dozens?) of men on the side over the years and she was crying at his funeral? Somehow I suspect heartless, gold digger would be at the forefront rather than he was her number one, etc.
I don't know if that has been brought up, but what if it was the wife who had several (dozens?) of men on the side over the years and she was crying at his funeral? Somehow I suspect heartless, gold digger would be at the forefront rather than he was her number one, etc.
I don't know if that has been brought up, but what if it was the wife who had several (dozens?) of men on the side over the years and she was crying at his funeral? Somehow I suspect heartless, gold digger would be at the forefront rather than he was her number one, etc.
So what? Most women here didn't exactly gave him compliments as well...so what's your point? Female self-pity?
Yes, I know that. That shouldn't mean a free pass for him to have affairs.
It definitely doesn't give anyone the green light; however, it's a conversation that could have occurred and she was ok with him sleeping with other women. Maybe the trade off of being taken care of and a stay at home Mom, was better than what life had in store with the possibility of being alone....
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