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And they probably want sex with other women too. But they choose not to. I long for lots of things I can't have. That is what functional adults do.
Unfortunately, jumping back and forth between men and women greatly Increases the transfer of some diseases, HIV specifically, to women that they otherwise would not normally be exposed to. One of the reasons that HIV is almost non-existent in the Lesbian population.
If it matters to them, they should ask. If they care, they will ask. If they don't ask, they don't have any right to complain. Simple. The end.
I don't care, so I don't ask. My time isn't wasted. If there is a dealbreaker issue out there for me, I ask. If they don't want to answer me, I can make the decision not to see them again.
And if the bisexual person doesn't make it known upfront, then they don't have any right to complain when they are dumped. Simple. The end.
And if it's not a big deal, it shouldn't be a big deal to mention to a potential lover/date.
Of course, but I wasn't talking about physical intimacy or focusing on it, like you claimed. Never mind referring to aerobic acts or treating people like rag dolls. I have no idea where you got that from the term "prospective partner".
And it's the straight/gay person's choice if they want to get involved or intensely private with a person who is bisexual.
It doesn't make sense to leave out such intimate/important details about yourself if you start dating someone.
It doesn't make sense to have a sense of entitlement to something you are owed in the first place.
It isn't leaving anything out when there is no expectation the person owes you those immensly private details in the first place. You'd really have to have some horrible boundaries to think that way. And those folks are not good long term material. At some point, it's just time to grow up
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And if the bisexual person doesn't make it known upfront, then they don't have any right to complain when they are dumped. Simple. The end.
And if it's not a big deal, it shouldn't be a big deal to mention to a potential lover/date.
Who said they should have a right to complain?
I never think to mention I'm straight to people I'm dating, but if I didn't mention it, and they dumped me because of it later, that's their business and their right. If they want to know, they should ask.
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It doesn't make sense to have a sense of entitlement to something you are owed in the first place.
This. They don't owe me information I've not asked for. And if they don't want to give it when I do ask, they have the right to say none of your business, and I have the right to not date them anymore. They aren't obligated to give me this info.
It doesn't make sense to have a sense of entitlement to something you are owed in the first place.
It isn't leaving anything out when there is no expectation the person owes you those immensly private details in the first place. .
It's not entitlement. It's their choice to date you or not. If that's the case, it's an entitlement to withhold something that you know could turn a person off.
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It's not entitlement. It's their choice to date you or not. If that's the case, it's an entitlement to withhold something that you know could turn a person off.
Not volunteering something someone hasn't asked for is not "witholding". That you think it is shows your entitlement.
I never think to mention I'm straight to people I'm dating, but if I didn't mention it, and they dumped me because of it later, that's their business and their right. If they want to know, they should ask.
Just like you think someone should ask, I also think someone should tell. I think it should be asked and it should be told.
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.This. They don't owe me information I've not asked for. And if they don't want to give it when I do ask, they have the right to say none of your business, and I have the right to not date them anymore. They aren't obligated to give me this info.
As long as you don't date/sleep with/marry them, then you are right. They aren't obligated to give info.
Not volunteering something someone hasn't asked for is not "witholding". That you think it is shows your entitlement.
Well, the info you are withholding is something that would turn many people off and they would see it as being deceptive since you know many people would not like it. Entitlement can be shown by not giving a person a choice as to wanting to date a bisexual person, even if they don't think to ask. You still know it's not something many people would go for.
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