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I'll go a step further on the "no contact" block her number in your SMS app. Block her on FB, create an email filter that sends any email she might send you immediately to the trash so you never see it. If you use an instant messenger block her there too. Don't frequent the places she frequents. Don't hang out with mutual friends.
You need that distance right now so that your heart has time to heal. If you don't give it to yourself, your heart will still heal, but it will take quite a bit longer.
I can't imagine me being "crushed" by anything anymore, especially when it comes to dating/relationships. It's a fact that most don't work out. I'm not going to keep that from stopping me from living my one and only life.
I can't think of a "pick me up" but I will leave you with two thoughts/suggestions:
1) Get off Facebook. Maybe I just don't get this. My ex has a Facebook page and I could not imagine a reason why I would look at it, ever, even if I was a registered member which I am not. Frankly I could care less. What's done is done.
2) Be your own best friend. You don't need anyone. Believe me with the right frame of mind and higher self esteem it can be done. Instead of being alone and feeling sorry for yourself go out and do something that YOU like. Granted this can't be done all the time but it is a nice release. I spend a lot of time alone. You will get used to it and believe me it's not really THAT bad!
My Ex of a year has been broken up with me for about 3 months now but we have kept in contact and our feelings are still there. We even let the physical side come into play through these 3 months. Now she is seeing a new guy who she says is amazing and very respectful of her (which I was) but this guy didn't even hold hands their first couple of "dates". I made the unfortunate mistake of looking on her FB tonight and she posted a status that she was stiff because of her recent car wreck. He commented saying, "I'll fix it " and she said " haha thanks baby. my body is hating me right now ) Just seeing her actually call this guy baby crushed me. She isn't even in a relationship with a guy but is now calling him that publicly. She has me blocked so I saw it on my friend's. I honestly think this is her rebound (the guy is not very attractive as she's admitted, but I know they have kissed by now) She always seems to depend on a guy in her life and doesn't want a relationship atm but wants that guy there so she can feel comfortable or whatever it is. It's a friday night and I'm home alone, feeling like crap now. Anybody have some advice ? much appreciated
No contact buddy. Unfriend her on facebook.
Breakups are difficult. Sorry for your heartbreak.
Some days are better than others....hang in there. I am a bit miserable myself, having had a big crush on someone... that is as far as it will go too.
Got any pets?
They are awesome company...and they KNOW when you need comfort. One of my cats used to lick tears off my face while I was struggling through a divorce a few yrs ago... She also placed one paw on my shoulder and just left it there. Dogs are good too. They all give you a reason to get up in the AM, as breakfast must be served, you know...
The non-contact advice is the only way to go. Give it time and you'll be over her just fine. It may seem odd to some, but I learned a long time ago, that a man can only be truly happy in a relationship if he is willing and able to walk away from it at any moment. It may sound counter-intuitive but is actualy a great stance to take.
Thanks so much guys, I didn't realize how many people would post here in such a short amount of time. Yes, I love guitar and I love to sing, been doing it for 6 years now. I'm only 21 and I know I don't have all the answers, but just had a long talk with my dad. He said pretty much the same thing. No contact. When it doesn't work out in the future with what she's working on, she will come back and try to use me again. This time I'm saying NO. Or better yet, nothing at all. I've been more involved with friends, my music, and meeting new people. I'm sort of past that whole party phase and I know I wouldn't enjoy myself if I showed up to one. Everyone says youre a handsome guy and could get alot of women. I just dont know if that's what I want or even need right now. I'll keep you guys updated on how things go if you decide to stick around. Thanks SO much I truly appreciate it, alot of you made me smile, laugh, and really think. Now I'm in a much better mood.
Think about it rationally: you and her breaks up and she tells you how much she likes this new guy knowing that you still have feelings for her. In addition, she blocks you on FB. That's a strong (negative) sign. You need to take those signs at face value (even though it's hard when feelings are involved and you don't like the honest interpretation of them) and react accordingly.
Others have it right. No contact, whatsoever. Just let things happen: don't 'try' to find a new GF to ease the pain. Just stay firm on the no contact. If you come across women you'd like to get to know better, then pursue them but don't date just to date.
Well heard from a friend that she is now in a relationship with the guy. She went from her ex to me in about 2 weeks after the breakup then we got into a relationship 2 weeks later. Some say it was a rebound but it lasted a year and she really did love me, or so it seemed. Now I think she's in another rebound situation. See a pattern of always needing a man? And all that talk about, yeah I don't want anything serious now, well I knew from the get go that's what any girl will say because they know that's what you want to hear. I doubt it lasts but who knows. Burning pictures currently haha
So to answer you greatblueheron, I'm doing ok, just somewhat pisse that someone can be so stupid and fall into the same pattern in life that doesn't get them anywhere. Date, breakup, go back to ex, go to other ex, date again, probably break up. Like put the brakes on for pete sake
Well heard from a friend that she is now in a relationship with the guy. She went from her ex to me in about 2 weeks after the breakup then we got into a relationship 2 weeks later. Some say it was a rebound but it lasted a year and she really did love me, or so it seemed. Now I think she's in another rebound situation. See a pattern of always needing a man? And all that talk about, yeah I don't want anything serious now, well I knew from the get go that's what any girl will say because they know that's what you want to hear. I doubt it lasts but who knows. Burning pictures currently haha
You're thinking about this too much. Do what you need to do with removing memories, pictures, contacts, etc. and then move on. Please do not ask about her or try to see her FB page through other peoples' accounts. I know you cannot control how often you think of her, but please do not talk about her in any format (including on these forums). You'll get over it with time.
Well heard from a friend that she is now in a relationship with the guy. She went from her ex to me in about 2 weeks after the breakup then we got into a relationship 2 weeks later. Some say it was a rebound but it lasted a year and she really did love me, or so it seemed. Now I think she's in another rebound situation. See a pattern of always needing a man? And all that talk about, yeah I don't want anything serious now, well I knew from the get go that's what any girl will say because they know that's what you want to hear. I doubt it lasts but who knows. Burning pictures currently haha
My ex can't be alone, either. Whatever, he's not so strong, I am (which seemed to always be a problem); ultimately, I win.
But you should tell your friend you don't need constant status updates. That kinda undermines the whole "no contact, moving on" premise. Her behavior patterns are hers to deal with, and not your problem anymore, and believe me, speaking from similar experience, that is a GOOD thing.
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" and she said " haha thanks baby. my body is hating me right now 
) Just seeing her actually call this guy baby crushed me. She isn't even in a relationship with a guy but is now calling him that publicly. She has me blocked so I saw it on my friend's. I honestly think this is her rebound (the guy is not very attractive as she's admitted, but I know they have kissed by now) She always seems to depend on a guy in her life and doesn't want a relationship atm but wants that guy there so she can feel comfortable or whatever it is. It's a friday night and I'm home alone, feeling like crap now. Anybody have some advice ? much appreciated
She also placed one paw on my shoulder and just left it there. Dogs are good too. They all give you a reason to get up in the AM, as breakfast must be served, you know...
