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I'm horribly shy, but I had to learn to fake it, so most people don't realize just how shy I am. Shy + introvert + dominant personality is a bit of a strange combo.
What about being low key and neurotic? I've got the best of both worlds .
Have I dated you?
I will say that shy, quiet guys have more issues with attracting the notice of women...who expect to be singled out, lavished with public attention, and aggressively pursued. But this is not all women. Some of us find being aggressively pursued offputting, annoying, intimidating, creepy, the opposite of flattering, and gladly look to the low-key, cool guy. For me, if a guy is coming on too strong, I am really skeptical of him. I'll take that laconic guy in the corner who's watched Mr. Wannabe-Alpha-Male lay it on too thick all night, and tossed me a knowing grin and eyeroll. In a heartbeat.
It's not so simple as introverted gals, extroverted gals. The appeal of the shy guy is that he's not an ego-driven jerk, and is either quiet and thoughtful (and often highly intelligent), or he's low-key, laid back, not so driven. Very generally speaking, he's perceived to go by a different value system than the highly competitive, money-and-power obsessed guys. This may make him appear to be more of a family-oriented guy, or at least, more likely to bond well with his woman and be supportive of her.
Some shy guys have great looks and great personalities. If some women would write them off because they're shy, they'd be missing out on a good thing. But that's one of those preference issues. To each her own.
They just have to be MORE careful with who they let into their lives, but shy people can make great additions to the portfolio of who one has in their lives.
they are no different then the 'non shy ones' at the end of the day. they just keep their jerk opinions to themselves until they get comfortable with the woman.
they are no different then the 'non shy ones' at the end of the day. they just keep their jerk opinions to themselves until they get comfortable with the woman.
That sounds kind of cynical. I don't act like a jerk in a relationship, not that I never have been a jerk, as I'm not perfect. But I'm not putting on an act when I start dating someone. I'm authentic and honest from the very beginning.
That sounds kind of cynical. I don't act like a jerk in a relationship, not that I never have been a jerk, as I'm not perfect. But I'm not putting on an act when I start dating someone. I'm authentic and honest from the very beginning.
if you say so....
just going off of what I seen from so called 'shy guys.' they act just as entitled & condescending as the rest -- they just don't put it all on display like the extroverted men do. It's still there though.
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Aggressive women tend to be attracted to shy guys.
Do their husbands end up as Walter Mitty's though? lol
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