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Old 12-17-2012, 06:57 PM
 
Location: Astoria, NY
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or your girlfriend to comment on pictures of friends on facebook of the opposite sex...in a complimentary way? What would be the exceptions?

Some times I think of complimenting my male friends on their photos but then I notice their picture privacy is set to "global" and I don't want my bf to see that...even though it's not like I want to smush them or anything.
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Old 12-17-2012, 07:00 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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It shouldn't be a problem if you're not on every photo going, "DAYUM, baby, you look good!"

If your comment is completely non-flirty and appropriate to the situation, you should be allowed to comment on whatever photo or post you want.
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Old 12-17-2012, 07:01 PM
 
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As long as the comment is appropriate, I don't see an issue.
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Old 12-17-2012, 07:08 PM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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Female friends do that all the time, and they aren't lesbians, so yes, you should be able to compliment them, even say they look sexy. If you're too jealous to deal with that that's you're problems.
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Old 12-17-2012, 07:14 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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even say they look sexy.

No, you can't say they look sexy. It's not appropriate to say a platonic, opposite-sex friend looks sexy if you are in a relationship.

It's a matter of respect for your partner and your friend.
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Old 12-17-2012, 07:14 PM
 
Location: Astoria, NY
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Well to be honest I'd be pissed if I saw my bf calling a girl "beautiful" or "gorgeous" in response to a photo...particularly if I didn't know her. Maybe that makes me insecure I dunno.

He wouldn't do that though.

But I've nearly made the equivalent mistake.

EDIT: If he called a girl "sexy" I'd be really upset. Sounds like flirting to me, beyond a simple compliment.
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Old 12-17-2012, 07:15 PM
 
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My friend's husband does that and she hates it. She does it too and her husband hates it. I think it's best just not to do it in front of your partner.
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Old 12-17-2012, 07:16 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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My friend's husband does that and she hates it. She does it too and her husband hates it. I think it's best just not to do it in front of your partner.
Not do it in front of them or not do it at all?

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Old 12-17-2012, 07:17 PM
 
Location: NoVa
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I would say it is ok to compliment a picture in friendly way. If it is a way you don't want your boyfriend to see, then it probably is the wrong way.

I've done it...maybe something as simple as "Great pic!"
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Old 12-17-2012, 07:19 PM
 
Location: Astoria, NY
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The reality is that you know the person you're with is attracted to other people and that's normal and natural.

But comments on facebook are a form of communication. Not only do you find her attractive you want her to know you do. Why? That's the point.
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