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I tried to talk to him about this, but he actually became quite miffed when I pressed him to stop with the sex and just hold out for a decent girl, not someone who's willing to shag him just for the sake of fun. I have a feeling all of this sex is going to make him a bad person.
Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's a stage that MOST MEN go through. Not much you can do for him other than continuing to be his friend. Worst thing you can do is sleep with the guy. Not sure how long this will last but will say it again... It is a STAGE and there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING you can do for him.
Sex is a powerful thing and can be as addicting as drugs. Very difficult to stop once the cycle gets started. And him being in NYC is not going to help either. This is the casual hook-up ...... friends with benefits paradise.
He broke free from outside strictures and now is working on discovering who he is, not who his parents/family want him to be. Now you're monitoring his sex life? This sounds a bit like sour grapes to me.
Also, get a clue about fetish parties, they are likely not like you think they are.
My guess is the pendulum will swing in the other direction at some point and he will end up somewhere between the two extremes he's faced in his life.
Ha... don't you remember what you were like when you first discovered sex? It really changes how you see people you're attracted to. Let the guy live his life. He'll settle down when he gets bored of meaningless sex.
Wow, there is a whole lot of judgment coming from this post. I sincerely hope that you didn't speak to him in the tone that you've used on this forum while describing his situation. If he's being safe and responsible, what does it matter? You're not going to "un-sex" someone who enjoys engaging in coitus, sorry.
Wow, there is a whole lot of judgment coming from this post. I sincerely hope that you didn't speak to him in the tone that you've used on this forum while describing his situation. If he's being safe and responsible, what does it matter? You're not going to "un-sex" someone who enjoys engaging in coitus, sorry.
I agree with this.
The man found out just how good vagina is and he's exploring some things.
I think most people who were in that kind of household would do similarly once you got some freedom.
Sorry, but I only "shag" someone I have sexual/emotional attraction to, not because I want to throw out a bone. I have feelings to. I don't have to want to "shag" someone in order to be friends with him. I'm assuming all the "shag him" posts are all typical "nice guys" that never get laid and feel they're owed sex because they're so "nice". :P
Also, not trying to control his sex life, I'm just concerned. I've seen too many decent guys turn into jerks over stuff like this, and I'd hate to see such a saint get "corrupted" for lack of a better term. Not enough good men in the world as it is, I'm sure a decent woman will appreciate him a lot more if he drops this sudden burst of sex and keeps himself at least somewhat reserved....sex isn't really a big deal anyway and Im sure if he waited till 25 he can wait a little longer for a girl that's worth more than fooling around with.....save those women for the guys that don't have standards for their dick.
Also, I doubt an unwanted baby or a STD is benifical at age 25, something sex-newbs are rather suspectible to. :P
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OP, I'll go ahead and be the lone voice of support here. I understand your sadness. Your friend went from one extreme to the other and both suck. It's sad to be a repressed fundie who doesn't enjoy and appreciate sex, and it's sad to be an oversexed weirdo caught in a morass of pornographic casual sex. It's best to be in a committed, fullfilling sexual relationship. Your friend will probably catch on some day.. most do.
Sorry, but I only "shag" someone I have sexual/emotional attraction to, not because I want to throw out a bone. I have feelings to. I don't have to want to "shag" someone in order to be friends with him. I'm assuming all the "shag him" posts are all typical "nice guys" that never get laid and feel they're owed sex because they're so "nice". :P
Also, not trying to control his sex life, I'm just concerned. I've seen too many decent guys turn into jerks over stuff like this, and I'd hate to see such a saint get "corrupted" for lack of a better term. Not enough good men in the world as it is, I'm sure a decent woman will appreciate him a lot more if he drops this sudden burst of sex and keeps himself at least somewhat reserved....sex isn't really a big deal anyway and Im sure if he waited till 25 he can wait a little longer for a girl that's worth more than fooling around with.....save those women for the guys that don't have standards for their dick.
Also, I doubt an unwanted baby or a STD is benifical at age 25, something sex-newbs are rather suspectible to. :P
No, I'm pretty sure all the shag him posts are from people who think your reasoning for being so overly concerned for this man's sex life is because you want a piece of the action. And as for the "corrupted" comment, he's a 25 year old man exploring his sexual interests, don't really see where the corruption comes into play unless he's doing something illegal.
Sorry, but I only "shag" someone I have sexual/emotional attraction to, not because I want to throw out a bone. I have feelings to. I don't have to want to "shag" someone in order to be friends with him. I'm assuming all the "shag him" posts are all typical "nice guys" that never get laid and feel they're owed sex because they're so "nice". :P
Also, not trying to control his sex life, I'm just concerned. I've seen too many decent guys turn into jerks over stuff like this, and I'd hate to see such a saint get "corrupted" for lack of a better term. Not enough good men in the world as it is, I'm sure a decent woman will appreciate him a lot more if he drops this sudden burst of sex and keeps himself at least somewhat reserved....sex isn't really a big deal anyway and Im sure if he waited till 25 he can wait a little longer for a girl that's worth more than fooling around with.....save those women for the guys that don't have standards for their dick.
Also, I doubt an unwanted baby or a STD is benifical at age 25, something sex-newbs are rather suspectible to. :P
You can't really control the guy. You can talk to him about it and ask him if he's using protection, but I wouldn't try to control his current sexual appetite. He's gotta learn someday after all.
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