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I'm sure you've dated much, much more than I have, especially in the last 5 years or so.
I can't imagine sticking with a date who asked me how much I made or what my credit score is. I'd probably become extremely straight forward with her and tell her to find a guy who doesn't mind answering these questions on a first date. I'm not sure how I would react if someone said "I googled you, tooncentration, and I'm not that good at concentrating in multiple areas at the same time.
I've gone on a few dates, here and there, but they've never been as painfully dull as what's been described. And finances have certainly not come up (save for when I went out with the over-sharing divorced guy). That sucks the life out of dating, which is supposed to be fun.
My goal has always been to come up with fun, creative, and unique first dates. I can't imagine sitting in a room with someone who pushes food around while idly asking me boring, lame crap. And I can't imagine ever going out with someone who would have the gall to ask me my credit score.
As far as going dutch, the vast majority of women don't care.
I NEVER ask though. I look at her reaction when check time comes. Some will look at me expectedly. If that's the case and I like them, then I pay. If I don't care for them, then I won't pay for them and I'm very clear about that.
Many times though, they'll just take out money and pay (who am I to stop them?). Some women have even paid for me. I support it.
Professionals and students. Definitely no family starters - we're talking 20s here. Generally the conversations went well initially but I feel like I have to do more and more of the talking as time goes on. Most of the conversation from them consists of questions about my work, education, what hobbies I'm doing, how much I travel, whether I like food, do I play an instrument, am I an outdoorsy person...blardy bar. It feels like they're adding or debiting points from my "interesting" index on a mental checklist.
Thus proving that women can be socially inept, too.
I'm a naturally curious person. But there are ways to get to know someone without turning a date into a Q & A session.
Inept: Do you like to travel? Where have you gone? What kind of food do you like to eat?
Adept: This soup reminds me of a bisque I had in New Orleans. I was there for a meeting for work, and we all went out to this place called Tujaques. Some of the best Creole food I've ever had. I need to go back there someday.
With that second one, if he's adept, he'll either talk about great meals he has had, whether he has been to New Orleans and what he thinks of it, travel in general, or maybe even all three: Travel he has done for his work and great restaurants he went to.
Thus proving that women can be socially inept, too.
I'm a naturally curious person. But there are ways to get to know someone without turning a date into a Q & A session.
Inept: Do you like to travel? Where have you gone? What kind of food do you like to eat?
Adept: This soup reminds me of a bisque I had in New Orleans. I was there for a meeting for work, and we all went out to this place called Tujaques. Some of the best Creole food I've ever had. I need to go back there someday.
With that second one, if he's adept, he'll either talk about great meals he has had, whether he has been to New Orleans and what he thinks of it, travel in general, or maybe even all three: Travel he has done for his work and great restaurants he went to.
Both the "inept" and "adept" person would make me fall asleep if I was talking to them.
You seem obsessed with the people you call CAPs. Why is that? Do you just hate Cathoic women? Are you a bigot?
I'm Catholic, or was raised and educated as such. CAPs? Bigoted? No. Practical? Yes. They can't be as stiff as a board, and simultaneously have an entitlement problem. They have to do better than that.
I like to flirt. What's said doesn't actually matter to me as long as the vibe is fun.
Most women feel the same.
Flirting has its place. But if that's all you're capable of, sorry, but you'd a) strike me as a lech and b) bore me to tears. I like a man who thinks with his big head and can carry on a conversation. Most women feel the same. One-trick ponies get old quickly.
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