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I don't think you should worry. Looking at your ages one would assume you are the less mature of the two but when it comes to relationships at least you are more experienced. I don't see 22 to 28 as a big difference and I disagree with your father who I believe is overreacting to her age. Also while your girlfriend might be 28, her apparently sheltered upbringing makes her more like a girl your age, plus you already mentioned she looks younger so what is the worry? Everyone has two ages IMO, your real age and an age that actually reflects your maturity level.
My wife is 5 years older than me. I'm 31 she's 36. I think these relationships can work as well or better than any other relationship. I don't see why the age difference should be an issue just by itself. I will admit that at times my wife worries that she will eventually look much older than me. This is something I have to continually reassure her on as it affects her self esteem.
My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 years, and I could honestly say that I've never been so happy with someone before. We are getting rather serious, and we both love each other deeply, but I could never stop worrying about her being 6 years older than me...
My girlfriend was a virgin when we met and I was the first guy she's been in bed with. She also never lived on her own before, and is very dependent on her parents. I, on the other hand, was living on my own at the time, and had a lot more experience with relationships before. Thus, despite the fact that she's 6 years my senior, she's much more immature than I am, and looks at least 8 years younger than her age. I'm much more serious and responsible than her and have had a lot more experiences in my life. As a result, I've always felt like the older, more mature one in the relationship, and I've always seen her as someone who is a couple of years younger than myself. We also discussed marriage and children, and she said she is not interested in any of that until maybe 5 years from now, which I am fine with.
Despite this, when we are not seeing each other, I can't help but worry about our age difference. How will she mature when she gets older? Much of my worries stem from my traditional father, who never approved of our relationship since she's older than me. According to him, such relationships are temporary, and I would get bored of being with someone who, down the line, might have less energy than myself. These worries are getting in my head, because we are starting to get really serious, and I am wondering if I should spend the rest of my life with this absolutely gorgeous woman, whom I have a strong connection with, or if I should stop wasting her time and move on...
So my question is, do any of you have any experience with relationships like this one? Is 6 years a noticeable difference? Do I have to worry about anything as time progresses?
Nope, and the whatever age difference there is, will seem even smaller as you get older!!
I am 45 and my husband is 41, and as far as we're concerned, age is just a number. We have two wonderful boys together and a fantastic family and that's what is important!
I'd be more worried about her being so dependent on her parents at that age (small red flag) than the age difference.
I was going to say that but yes, very small red flag. I'm sure that will change pretty soon anyway.
I'm not sure what the deal is here, if you're happy with her then that's all it matters. Who gives a rat's a** about what other people think of y'all relationship. Is that what you're worrying about?
Many people on the City-Data Forum tend to bash other people and make them feel sorry or guilty.
The age difference isn't the problem. Is she employed? Does she have a BA and a good job? If you got married, would both of you be working? Have you discussed these things with her? How well does she manage money? These are the things you should be looking at, not a small age difference.
It sounds like you really love her, and that you may have found "The One", for you...I think she really sounds 100% perfect for you!
If I were hypothetically in your shoes, I would marry her, if I were you (meant 100% seriously, not joking here)
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(meant 100% seriously, not joking here)
