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I've always wondered what it would be like as an American man to date women from another country. Are they more or less reserved? Are they nicer? Are they more or less traditional (wait until marriage for sex)? etc...
That would depend on the country, what area of the country, the religious and/or cultural leanings of the parents, their socio-economic strata, and so on.
like this is why I used to relish all the opportunities to give back to these women what they do to guys like ^ for no reason.
Yeah. I've got a friend right now that has a crush on me and believe me, the thought of telling her that I'm not interested because she's a total wimp and needs to get braces and lose 40lbs before I'd even consider sleeping with her has crossed my mind. But I'm a big softy and could never treat/reject a woman in the sometimes harsh manner in which I've been treated/rejected.
Some women and men don't get that. I have a few women friends that are only plutonic, and yes we "Hang out" and I hate that term, but it applies to friends. When I ask some one out on a date I'm going to say exactly that "would you like to go out on a date?". Ive had a few women in recent years ask "This is a date, right?", as if to confirm this was not hanging out
Wait a minute you mean people of different sexes can hang out with other with no pretense of romance and what not?:confused.
Maybe its a generational, time frame, social thing but I have no issue with hanging out because it means what it means hanging out with friends like you posted.
In fact looking at it my hanging out with women far exceeds my dating women so I guess its one of those individual things.
ya initially I did cause it sounded like he wanted a date. When he said he wasn't intending a date, then I said "oh..well here's my number and we can hang as friends". he could be lying but like I said, I'll figure that out quickly.
In most cases, he would have been lying had he said that.
I notice a lot of people putting a lot of weight to rejection. It really isn't that bad. I miss the days when all I had to worry about was some lady nicely saying "no thank you."
I will say this.
Some men ARE funny about rejection.
There are some "funny" posts in this thread about rejection.
actually, probably the most attractive woman I ever approached rejected me the best way I was ever rejected. I actually smiled as I walked away, as I was just glad that she was decent enough to say without being rude, or mean, or irritated, "No, but thanks for the offer".
I've noticed that as well, on several occasions!! The women that I've asked out that are really hot have always been very kind and amicable when they turned me down whereas the women that are just barely good looking enough to be considered attractive were quite rude.
Yeah. I've got a friend right now that has a crush on me and believe me, the thought of telling her that I'm not interested because she's a total wimp and needs to get braces and lose 40lbs before I'd even consider sleeping with her has crossed my mind. But I'm a big softy and could never treat/reject a woman in the sometimes harsh manner in which I've been treated/rejected.
I know what you mean, it's a good thing I've matured.
The worst is/was when I would witness a friend get shot down hard for absolutely no reason and he tries to mask the hurt by laughing it off. That gets under my skin so much.
I know this wasn't your intention OP, but a lot of guys think/fear that women reject men for sport and make fun of them when talking to their girlfriends. And this is why a lot of guys won't approach women. Getting rejected by one woman doesn't really mean that one woman rejected you. You could easily become a reject for her entire social circle, which depending on how big that is and how big the area is, can seriously hinder a man's dating prospects.
Or they will forget that the man asked her out and move on. The only way that getting rejected by a woman is going to "hinder" your chances with other woman is if there is something screwed up in your approach.
JUST THE FACT THAT YOU APPROACH WILL GRANT YOU SOME RESPECT!!! Especially since guys rather take a bullet to the crotch and a gut shot than approach a woman and get rejected.
If you lose respect just because you approached and got rejected, then you are living among a bunch of shallow and ignorant people that are really not worth your time.
If you approach and attempt to have a normal conversation with a woman, (which avoids any canned phrases or attempts to impress) then even if she rejects you, your chances will barely get a scratch. The best thing to do is to go with the context where you are most in your element.
Just the kind of thread that's needed at CD: "Ladies, let's all get together and talk about the funny responses men give when we shoot them down!"
And the women here really wonder why some men are so fearful about approaching women?
Oh, I doubt if the man just said, "okay," said something along the lines of "it was nice to meet you" and moved on, that he'll have to worry about being mentioned as one of those "funny responses." Although, the response that the OP describes is not that funny. (I do find it fishy, though...)
It's just a coworker trying to make it less awkward after getting rejected
exactly!
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like this is why I used to relish all the opportunities to give back to these women what they do to guys like ^ for no reason.
