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Welp, YOU POSTED and asked, you got answers and now WE are the ones who are the bad people because you don't like some of the answers you have read..........makes me wonder who is more childish in this situation.
Issues in a marriage is very different than "Sulking, pouting, screaming and having a tantrum" when something does not go just as you think it should. It is ALL about partnership, maturity, communication, honesty (which I'm guessing is not a big part of your marriage since you hid the damage from him)...
Are you getting the idea of how marriage is now?
PS ~~ The next time you DO NOT WANT adverse answers to a post on a public forum.............
DO NOT POST on a public forum.
Get a grip
NEVER SAID I WANTED ADVERSE ANSWERS? I just asked 1 question, real simple.
Angry much?
Husband just found a dent in the car..I knew I was going to catch hell for it.
he just had the same area fixed 5 months ago.( I took the side of the garage with my passenger front bumper)
I don't know which is more harsh. The total silent treatment, or well deserved yelling I got on the phone when he discovered it.
Which one makes you shudder when your other half gets upset.???
Ugh... hate to upset my other half. I really don't know which is worse. I can't decide.
Location: Georgia, on the Florida line, right above Tallahassee
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Originally Posted by Gilah G.
Husband just found a dent in the car..I knew I was going to catch hell for it.
he just had the same area fixed 5 months ago.( I took the side of the garage with my passenger front bumper)
I don't know which is more harsh. The total silent treatment, or well deserved yelling I got on the phone when he discovered it.
Which one makes you shudder when your other half gets upset.???
My wife has bumped the car on a couple of different occasions. I had a way to deal with this. With calmness. She had a way to deal with this, too. She knows what I like. I take care of you, you take care of me.
The first time that man yelled at me OR gave me the silent treatment I would leave and never look back.
I date adults, not children.
So you "perfect" people never fight at all? Suppressing all emotions in a relationship is not healthy.
Silent treatment is a lot better than yelling tough. The point of the silent treatment (not responding as much, acting distant) is to show that you are mad about the situation. It is a way to make the partner understand that you hurt her/him. If you do care about your partner you will try to find out what is wrong and you will discuss the problems. If you don't care, you will ignore it.
It's completely normal and most people when they get upset, either start yelling, or they turn silent. The people here who will break up with anyone who does that is severely limiting your dating pool.
Humans get mad once in a while, it is acceptable to show emotions in a relationship.
Husband just found a dent in the car..I knew I was going to catch hell for it.
he just had the same area fixed 5 months ago.( I took the side of the garage with my passenger front bumper)
I don't know which is more harsh. The total silent treatment, or well deserved yelling I got on the phone when he discovered it.
Which one makes you shudder when your other half gets upset.???
When I was married I think what was more harsh to me was getting yelled at. The silent treatment was a gift, days of not hearing him talk!
So you "perfect" people never fight at all? Suppressing all emotions in a relationship is not healthy.
It's completely normal and most people when they get upset, either start yelling, or they turn silent. The people here who will break up with anyone who does that is severely limiting your dating pool.
Humans get mad once in a while, it is acceptable to show emotions in a relationship.
I am sorry you think this is completely normal behavior.
I don't think so.
Nobody is perfect. But we strive to treat each other with respect.
There is nothing I "fear" telling my spouse. And vice versa. To imply that's normal is waaaaay off.
If one of us screws up somehow, the other has the grace to appreciate how lousy they probably feel about it.
I would never hurt my spouse's feelings over some stupid possession. That's crazy.
We do get angry once in a while. But we don't yell. That's not allowed in this house.
Husband just found a dent in the car..I knew I was going to catch hell for it.
he just had the same area fixed 5 months ago.( I took the side of the garage with my passenger front bumper)
I don't know which is more harsh. The total silent treatment, or well deserved yelling I got on the phone when he discovered it.
Which one makes you shudder when your other half gets upset.???
If my husband did either, I would think Martians came and replaced him with a small child who is incapable of rational thought and emotional control.
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Being totally honest, I don't believe anyone when they have said they have NEVER yelled at their spouse. Some of the people I know who have been married the longest, have admitted to raising their voice to their spouse, not frequently but it has happened. No one has their emotions in check 100% of the time. Hell at least I admit it. To the non-yellers here I have no idea how yall survive in working world. I've had bosses yell at me, I've sucked it up and kept going.
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