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Originally Posted by survivor425
Like I said, she is incredibly shy and bashful and feels uncomfortable talking about sex. If I ever bring up things like that she doesn't give any input and never has.
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Oh, my heart goes out to both of you
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She sounds like she has a lot of difficult stuff she is dealing with, psychologically. She has not told you anything in her background as an explanation? If I had to guess, I would guess emotional abuse, not sexual -- but it could easily be both.
She also may have some inborn neurological differences (OCD, autism spectrum, stuff like that. Though some research indicates those may be less inborn than we think, and more to do with mutations affecting absorption of certain nutrients... I digress.)
Have you brought up the subject of counseling / therapy? How did she react?
If she does start therapy, you should be aware that, if I am understanding correctly her current situation, it may be quite a few years before you notice major changes. Therapy makes permanent changes in the brain, but often not at a speed that is helpful to existing relationships. You will have to think about whether where she is at now is workable for you.
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. It sounds like you two may suit each other well.
