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Originally Posted by mariagostrey
So im 26 year old and while my girlfriends are all on the path to walking down the aisle with great guys I have always been perpetually single with a string of bad short flings. I don't have trouble attracting men but do have trouble keeping them/meeting them.
My other friends just don't seem to be having that struggle. This one girl I know met her now husband at a mutual friend's party two years ago where they immediately hit it off. They talked all night and he asked her out the next night and a year later proposed to her. No drama, no push-pull, no crazy exes etc.
Another friend met her guy at another party senior year of college, he proposed a year later and is now a happily married school teacher in Florida.
This other couple I know met at debate team during college and recently moved in together.
All this time I go out of my way to meet men, even going so far as to give random men on dating websites a chance, date any guy I meet via friends and friends of friends but...nothing happens. Best case scenario is I have 2-3 fun dates and either I or the guy concludes that we don't feel it. Or the guy says he can't deal with my virginity. Or the guy professes his love for an ex-gf and leaves me to go get her.
What is wrong with me?  How come some people fall into love without trying and others struggle so much? |
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Two things:
1) If you live in a large city, it's much easier than if you live in a small town
2) You said that you give men a chance. It's not that they're giving YOU a chance, you're the "better" one giving THEM a chance. That makes men angry and bitter and wondering about you, and are turned off by this arrogance. You give EACH OTHER a chance. Maybe there's some arrogance that needs to be humbled, if any? If there's some entitlement, it must be toned down. As men have observed since the 1970's how punitive divorce laws are towards men, they have been more guarded around women who believe they are superior because they have almost everyone approaching them and nobody approaching the guys, and an social imbalance is present which must be made up by the guy paying for everything.
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