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I've said this for many years. Keeping one wife happy takes some work. Two wives is not happening. Then the drama starts. Plus, I'm outnumbered. I just keep the one I've got.
Seriously...I don't even like hanging out with large groups of FRIENDS, preferring my friendships to be primarily one-on-one. This dynamic would never work for me. I'm just a 1:1 person, all around.
True for me, too, about friendships .
My poly relationships were 1:1. We rarely hung out as a group, and did not all live together as a family. I like to do my interacting one-on-one mostly, but some poly people who are more social than I am live with 2 or 3 partners. They are also the types who always have potlucks and book clubs meeting at their houses and stuff .
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I feel sorry for the children in these situations.
And their parents feel sorry for your kids, who have only two parents .
I'm not joking. A comment I see over and over from poly parents is, 'How do people cope, with only two adults?! They must be exhausted!'
The thing is, poly families are families. They are not a group of adults boning all the time and ignoring the kids. They are 3 or so parents helping with homework, driving the kids to soccer and dance class, going to PTA meetings, paying the bills, taking out the recycling...
I would not care and don't think it should be illegal.
I knew a woman who has two spouses. She called it a committed triad. At the time I knew her, she had been with one man for 17 years and the other for 10. Neither man was bisexual, and all three lived together and owned the house together. Their relationship was sexually open for all of them, but she said rarely did anyone actually take advantage of it. She said her two spouses were close friends and that either would be just as devastated if something happened to the other as they would any other family member.
She was a writer and taught writing, one of her spouses was a writer and in publishing, and I think the other spouse was some kind of accountant. She said because they moved socially in the world of sci-fi writers and publishers, no one found them particularly odd--sci-fi people have very open minds and accept a lot of things beyond the conventional.
How people want to voluntarily structure their families is not my concern in the least unless someone is being abused or harmed.
Mightyqueen describes better than I can what RL poly relationships are like .
Why is that? Like other families, usually all the adults work, or sometimes one takes care of the house.
With all those wives, I am assuming they will have children, so all those kids are expensive. Less kids if there is one woman. I guess if no one has kids, it doesn't matter much.
My poly relationships were 1:1. We rarely hung out as a group, and did not all live together as a family. I like to do my interacting one-on-one mostly, but some poly people who are more social than I am live with 2 or 3 partners. They are also the types who always have potlucks and book clubs meeting at their houses and stuff .
We came to it late and as a sort of mistake. We are a group of 4. But very much so a group.
It should be legal. It does sound expensive for a man with multiple wives. Seems a bit better with a woman and multiple husbands.
Why should it be specifically legal? Or more to the point HOW? How does splitting of assets work on dissolution? Child support? Survivor-ship? Companies pay medical insurance for Tom and his five wives?
Seems to me that marriage in the US was a social engineering experiment that failed. Why not let churches offer marriage. And let people acquire whatever legal arrangements that they want within and between themselves.
I agree that the legal aspects of poly marriage would be waaaaaay more complex than with gay marriage. Would one person's health insurance cover all their partners? I guess it's like if the family was monogamous but had a lot of kids....
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