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Yes I am, I have matured and don't make women cry anymore when they make me mad
Ok, cool. So now you could make some additional progress?
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Originally Posted by WestPhillyDude75
I was talking about the PHONE CONVO before the date
They are not different. They are both about determining basic compatibility.
And, at a grownup age, a lot of that involves your feelings about your work, what you do for fun including travel, what living situation you have chosen for yourself, etc.
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Originally Posted by sadgirl80
Why don't you limit your pre-date conversation to texting?.
Texting is against his rules, too. He has a whole recent thread about it.
What you do in your sparetime can be anything. What you do for fun is kind of weird because people ae not out having fun every weekend.
Yeah, because a conversation about how you did four loads of laundry and cleaned out the refrigerator is much more interesting than your hobbies and your travels.
Yeah, because a conversation about how you did four loads of laundry and cleaned out the refrigerator is much more interesting than your hobbies and your travels.
Exactly. That's why "How do you spend your weekends" -type questions are kind of awkward. And yet, it's on WPDude's "approved" list. Go figure.
Some people are homebodies and some just plain don't like to travel.
This^ describes me.
In past, I have traveled some (incl. once outside the U.S.),
but no longer enjoy/engage in it.
So I could converse to limited degree about the topic,
as it's all old news for me (not my current/recent lifestyle).
If a guy likes to travel so much, then he & I are likely a poor match-
as he won't have time for relationship in one place (with me).
I don't think questions about travel are intimate or personal/private, just my 2 cents there.
Ok, cool. So now you could make some additional progress?
They are not different. They are both about determining basic compatibility.
And, at a grownup age, a lot of that involves your feelings about your work, what you do for fun including travel, what living situation you have chosen for yourself, etc.
Texting is against his rules, too. He has a whole recent thread about it.
Texting is for someone i already know not someone I;m trying to GET TO KNOW
Food Likes
Music Likes
Favorite sections of the city
TV shows likes
Shopping Preferences
Personality description
Movie likes
sports likes
Pets
social media
Date preferences-indoor/outdoor
Age preference you prefer to date
Are you a person who snacks
Books preferences
family talk
education
Dress style
Typical Weekend
Are you phone person
What type of Outdoor things do you like to do
Most of these are stuff that's typically covered in someone's online profile. If I chatted or emailed with someone and the conversation consisted mainly of recycled material from their profile, I'd probably be bored and doubt I would pursue anything with them.
Texting is for someone i already know not someone I;m trying to GET TO KNOW
That differs from my experience, but everybody has different dating experiences I suppose.
Texting is more casual than talking on the phone, and it also gives you the time to think about what you really wanna say. It also allows you to multi-task, "talk" to somebody that you don't really know and aren't sure if you should invest a full chunk of 20 minutes of your free time after work on the phone with, while you're in the office in between running light errands.
I don't think questions about travel are intimate or personal/private, just my 2 cents there.
Most of the topics he deems to be safe are boring and don't give real insight into somebody's compatibility with him. And yes, I agree, asking somebody about their travel history and preferences is such a casual thing, I witness colleagues who barely know one another going at length about it.
Actually, the "favorite sections of the city" question is pretty good. It's fresh, different, and conducive to interesting, fun conversation. "What type of outdoor things do you like to do" is pretty good, too. It's better than asking about "sports", because people tend to think of organized sports when you say "sports", but some people are solo-sport people, like kayaking, hiking, etc.
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