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considering marriage changes absolutely nothing about the trials and tribulations of living with another person...
living together is just fine for me.
Since SO and I both want marriage, and have discussed it with each other, I plan on living with him before we marry for at least a year. Distance is a constraint right now, but he plans to move here next year. If he bails, I bail. If he moves in and we don't get engaged within the year, I bail. He has agreed to and actually wants these terms. I have been with him over 2 years now and we have discussed our marriage plans up front.
I am fine with cohabiting, but not with a man I don't plan to marry. I don't think I would wait until marriage to live with him, unless something like our distance continued to be an issue, but I don't see that ever being the case.
I can agree with people who cohabit and don't want marriage though. As long as everyone is happy and honest, nobody is really right over the other.
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Moving in before marriage. I want to know the FULL deal on someone before I even think of putting my name on the bottom line. Preferably I could avoid marriage altogether and just do the living in sin thingy.
Living together is a must. I found out my ex was an inconsiderate pig (messy slob) after we moved in together. I absolutely could not have been married to that. . . He hid it pretty well before the move.
I want to know what I'm getting into.
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Ridiculous.
