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The reason why i'm asking the question is that i met a foreign woman who PREFERED older guys. Like a girl who started at age 22 to date guys late 30's and up. Some Latin women also have this preference.
And i can easily see this in high cost cities like NYC, LA and Miami. and some women have the whole "guys in their 20's are immature frat boys" thing.
I really have to go against the grain here-- lots of guys in their 50's can do well-- a lot of the brat pack from the 80s: Kevin Bacon, Robert Downey Jr, Rob Lowe-- all of these guys still look pretty young. Jared Leto is 41, looks 27.
Personally, most of the women who approach me are in their 20's and and sometimes in their 30s.
Despite what you may think, i'm not "fishing" for answers that women prefer older guys. Just curious about thoughts on turning down 27 year old guys for suave, mature 40 year old guys.
Dude, these guys have MONEY, lots and lots of MONEY!
Even if I was rich I would not want someone for my money.
It's my understanding that you are correct on foreign women. But I do not see them at events that I like to go to. This is very important to me. I need to have something in common with them.
The reason why i'm asking the question is that i met a foreign woman who PREFERED older guys. Like a girl who started at age 22 to date guys late 30's and up. Some Latin women also have this preference.
And i can easily see this in high cost cities like NYC, LA and Miami. and some women have the whole "guys in their 20's are immature frat boys" thing.
I really have to go against the grain here-- lots of guys in their 50's can do well-- a lot of the brat pack from the 80s: Kevin Bacon, Robert Downey Jr, Rob Lowe-- all of these guys still look pretty young. Jared Leto is 41, looks 27.
Personally, most of the women who approach me are in their 20's and and sometimes in their 30s.
Despite what you may think, i'm not "fishing" for answers that women prefer older guys. Just curious about thoughts on turning down 27 year old guys for suave, mature 40 year old guys.
I wasn't into suave, mature 40 year old guys when I was in my 20's. I might have found a few of them attractive - but I wasn't attracted to them. I've always been attracted to guys within 10 years of me. And thinking that older celebrities are hot and that the roles that they play are sexy isn't the same thing as a real live older man.
maturity level at 23 as a guy in his 40's or 50's. .
Again can someone explain what is the proper maturity level for say a guy in his 40's or 50's? I can tell you it is not maturity level that makes a difference between someone 20 and someone 50, no matter your age you still want to live and HAVE FUN hopefully. What makes the difference too often is social difference, a person in his 50's is likely not going to relate to the latest social, media and music trends to the 20 something year old. Not long ago I was asked if I ever heard of dubstep music to which I replied ...huh no. When I asked her if she ever heard of ZZ Top she replied no to my dismay.
But I was turned on to this song which so happens I think is cool. But that doesn't mean I'll be hitting the trend clubs to dance to it surrounded by people half my age. So am I immature for liking this song? It is not maturity levels that matter, its trend and social considerations.
Again can someone explain what is the proper maturity level for say a guy in his 40's or 50's? I can tell you it is not maturity level that makes a difference between someone 20 and someone 50, no matter your age you still want to live and HAVE FUN hopefully. What makes the difference too often is social difference, a person in his 50's is likely not going to relate to the latest social, media and music trends to the 20 something year old. Not long ago I was asked if I ever heard of dubstep music to which I replied ...huh no.
But I was turned on to this song which so happens I think is cool. But that doesn't mean I'll be hitting the trend clubs to dance to it surrounded by people half my age. So am I immature for liking this song? It is not maturity levels that matter, its trend and social considerations.
There is a big difference in maturity from 20s to 50s.
I did my best to explain what society expects.
I can tell you this about most people my age - many do stop living. I used to have no problem getting friends to go events with me like concerts and sporting events. Despite being gainfully employed they just don't want to go out anymore. Either that or they are in relationships and would rather stay home with their SO.
What about the responses from women who seem to find men in their 20's too immature and actively seek 35+ men-- as they know what they are getting, whether or not they will be financially successful, and the advantage over time that their husband won't start cheating when they hit 40?
You're really grasping here. People who want to cheat are going to cheat regardless. Although, if you land a young thing and have to start taking the little blue pill your lovely might start looking else where as well.
I'm in my 40s, and often mistaken for being in my 30s. if happens more often than you think. Once you connect and can relate to them, "your not like most older guys". I had a 26you recently tell me "I cant believe I can talk to you like my friends". Also long as the vibe is on, your age is generally not a problem. At that point, you've crossed their logical "I wont date older guys" rule.
This is so true. As a property manager I ran a large multifamily apartment building for a decade. I had to learn how connect and relate to mostly women from their late teens to their 70s. The building also had an after school program for the kids, although my boss ran the program she coaxed me into assisting, which meant I had to learn to relate to kids from 4 to their late teens. I learned to relate so well that my tenants seemed like a second family. The young women loved talking and flirting with me and the younger kids and teen boys would want to play wiffle ball and basketball while the teen girls would daily hunt me down to play trivial pursuit. That I was able to relate to all these different people from different age groups and races still surprises me as I am simply a shy guy who just happens to be a good listener.
Again can someone explain what is the proper maturity level for say a guy in his 40's or 50's? I can tell you it is not maturity level that makes a difference between someone 20 and someone 50, no matter your age you still want to live and HAVE FUN hopefully. What makes the difference too often is social difference, a person in his 50's is likely not going to relate to the latest social, media and music trends to the 20 something year old. Not long ago I was asked if I ever heard of dubstep music to which I replied ...huh no. When I asked her if she ever heard of ZZ Top she replied no to my dismay.
But I was turned on to this song which so happens I think is cool. But that doesn't mean I'll be hitting the trend clubs to dance to it surrounded by people half my age. So am I immature for liking this song? It is not maturity levels that matter, its trend and social considerations.
When I was 22, I was just out of college. For the first time in my life, I was paying my own bills. I was at the beginning of my career. I wasn't saving much money - I was just getting started on being an adult. I didn't know how to handle a lot of situations. I didn't stand up for myself as often as I should have. I was in a new city, pursuing my dreams, working at a gym during the day to make ends meet, and hanging out with my friends. By the time you are in your 40's and 50's - I would hope that you are in a different place in your life. I would have found it odd if someone that much older than me was in the same place in his life.
This is so true. As a property manager I ran a large multifamily apartment building for a decade. I had to learn how connect and relate to mostly women from their late teens to their 70s. The building also had an after school program for the kids, although my boss ran the program she coaxed me into assisting, which meant I had to learn to relate to kids from 4 to their late teens. I learned to relate so well that my tenants seemed like a second family. The young women loved talking and flirting with me and the younger kids and teen boys would want to play wiffle ball and basketball while the teen girls would daily hunt me down to play trivial pursuit. That I was able to relate to all these different people from different age groups and races still surprises me as I am a shy guy who just happens to be a good listener.
I can relate to people of all ages as well. Relating and being in a romantic relationship with are 2 entirely different things.
For women from age 23-32, do you prefer men just a few years older (less than 5-6 years older to 1-2 years younger, or men from 35 to 50-55 years old?
And which do you prefer for casual relationships, dating and marriage? And how does money, looks, sex drive, maturity and chemistry come into the picture?
Do you prefer an older provider type? A more mature, handsome man? A younger, siller Ashton Kutcher type? Or do you just play it as it goes?
Do you actively try to go places where older men hangout to meet them? Are you an "old" soul?
Thanks for the responses.
I'm way past 32 (by 20 years) but I'm going to answer anyway, I used to be 32 (so I think it counts) and I used to date (I'm married now).
Anyway I have dated men from 12 years younger than me to 25 years older and every age in between and had no problems with any of them as far as the age gap goes.
As far as the money, looks, sex, provider.........etc it is the entire man not just bits and pieces and when I was dating I did not have anything specific in mind.
I never "looked" for a man to marry; I dated, had fun, went with the flow of being human and single and did not really care if I was in a relationship or not.
If I had a boyfriend great, if I didn't great; I have never revolved my life around having a man in my life.
I met men everywhere I went so no I did not specifically spend time in one or two places just to meet men.
You're really grasping here. People who want to cheat are going to cheat regardless. Although, if you land a young thing and have to start taking the little blue pill your lovely might start looking else where as well.
People who take the "blue pills" are generally capable to have sex for extended periods of time than non-viagra user could.
Your comparison is thus mismatched at best. Having an aversion towards older people is one thing and that's what your dating requirement may be, but saying that someone won't be sexually satisfied because their partner uses viagra pills is outright qualification for stupid post of the year - viagra pills keep erection constant and make it last for so long that non-viagra users often take it when they i.e. visit prostitutes to enjoy full-time experience that they pay.
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