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In my many years of sex, with many different women, I've found as a man, the woman either just brings that type of thing out or she does not. It's really not a formulation that can be forced or described. For me, how responsive she was is what got me going in the aggressive department and it coincided with the sounds, reactions, chemistry, talking between us and a sense of, "if something does not go perfect, we just laughed it off and moved on to something else."
I've truly learned over the years and many female partners, that we men like to all believe we are sex Gods and true, we can be better or worse, learn and evolve, but it is the woman who truly holds the key to amazing sex. A woman who knows her own body, guides us (cause every one of them are so different) is open with us, instill confidence, will in return usually have a great lover. Unless he's just an idiot and there are lots of men out there who are clueless and always will be!
I would be very careful on this. Is the marriage going OK? Any possibility of divorce or an affair? What if she then turns this around and uses it as a pretense to file divorce or abuse charges? You could spice things up in other ways other than resorting to anything to do with pain.
I couldn't do that as I don't have it in me. This was after being together 8 years. Not that it mattered but she never gave me the chance either as she cheated on me. People change which is why I said this situation didn't sound good and having an open relationship was likely the only way to save this relationship. I spoke from experience.
In the end I no longer turned her on and she wanted sex with aggressive Asian men. What that also got her was unwanted physical abuse.
Did she have some kind of rape fantasy? If she did, that is not really that unusual. Many of my girlfriends have secretly told me they have fantasized about being raped (NOT by strangers) So it is not really "rape".
To me being aggressive just means total control. I want the man to have total control in the bedroom. That is hot!
Did she have some kind of rape fantasy? If she did, that is not really that unusual. Many of my girlfriends have secretly told me they have fantasized about being raped (NOT by strangers) So it is not really "rape".
To me being aggressive just means total control. I want the man to have total control in the bedroom. That is hot!
Hard to say but maybe. As I mentioned I never got the chance but in truth I do not think it would have mattered. It was total communication breakdown. I really had no idea.
Mod cut: Orphaned.
Her cheating ended the relationship.
Last edited by PJSaturn; 11-11-2013 at 08:36 AM..
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